Sunday, December 23, 2012

Never Give Up - Tia

No one in their right mind would argue against David Beckham's hotness. The hair. The tattoos. The muscles. The man is HOT!! FINE!! DELICIOUS!! whatever....He is all of the above.

But today DB is my motivator. Why? Because he's shown me ANYONE can overcome their awkward youth and continue to upgrade their hotness. So thank you David for showing us that you can go from this:

to this: 

Friday, December 21, 2012

Leaving On a Jet Plane- Toya

This was written yesterday but as soon as I ate some of my mom's food and hit my room, I hit the bed.  It was a wrap.  

Today starts the first day of my Christmas vacation in New Jersey. I am currently on a plane traveling from Nashville to Philadelphia and I already know what's going to happen. I'm going to walk into the airport, hear the sounds of the city and ponder if I really want to stay in Nashville and not move back to the northeast. The fact is I have never been happier in Nashville really. I actually have some cool things brewing for me. However I have always said that if I could pick up all of my Nashville friends and move them to Philadelphia, I'd do it in a heartbeat. I love the richness of big cities like Philadelphia and NYC. I just wish I could have the best of both worlds right now. And by best I mean more diversity, pedestrian friendly shopping areas and public transportation but with a lower cost of living for me and all of my Nashville friends.

I started reading Quitter again. I think when I first read it, it was with the mindset that I would work on making BGLU my main gig one day and be able to leave my full time job as a receptionist. That's not exactly what happened.  My aspirations have changed and thus I feel like I need to go through it again. I decided that there were quite a few other things I wanted to do that of course include writing but they also include TV and concert production. That's great and all but I recently picked up a part time job as a restaurant hostess. I have things on the table with very little time to do them and I am feeling pretty overwhelmed. Unfortunately it shows. I've gained eight pounds and am hiring one of my friends to handle chores around the house for me. It's that serious right now. If I could quit any of my jobs and be hired for sleep research, I'd have it in the bag because all I ever want to do lately is sleep every chance I get. As Marvin said, this ain't livin'.  I want to be in a position to help my parents when they need it.  Life isn't just about me anymore.

I'm taking the time during this vacation to do some soul searching, thinking and praying about what's next. This is par for the course as next week I will be flying back on my 38th birthday. I feel great about 38! I'm hopeful.  Really hopeful.  I have to be.  38 is too close to 40 to be pessimistic so I have to stay hopeful in order to move forward and do some things I haven't done before.   Pessimism can paralyze you. The only way I can move forward to bigger and better things is by being consistent, optimistic and continuously believing that things will not only get better, but that they are already getting better.

You need to be moving if you want God to show you which way to go.- Joyce Meyer

Thursday, December 20, 2012

(Almost the) Weekend Roundup

Since I haven't done a Weekend Roundup in two weeks AND I'm off of work until 2013, I figured I would go ahead and get a jump on this week's WR. 

Seriously, how can you not love this picture? - Yahoo!

I'm going to pretend I'm okay with Michael Ealy being married. *sniffle* - People

But I am not okay with JUST NOW finding out that Common Law was canceled via the above article. I really liked that show. They're so pretty and were fun to watch. - TV Line

I want to friend anyone who had a hand in attacking those Westboro jerks. - HuffPo

I completely forgot about the world ending tomorrow. I worked out and ate healthy today for nothing. I could have slept in and ate cake. - Mashable

I (not so) secretly love a hot mess. - TMZ

This was beautiful.

I'm about two seconds from picketing Blackground Records morning, noon and night to help JoJo get out of that insane contract she signed when she was TWELVE YEARS OLD!!! Her new mixtape is going to make me get all revolutionary and such. - JoJo's Tumblr

Dear The Philippines,
Filipino Beliebers will burn your country to ashes if you ban Beiber from coming there just because he has jokes. I'm just saying...
You've been warned, now have several seats - That Grape Juice


BSB and The Roots for the win. - PITNB

POTUS is Time's Person of the Year. - Time 

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Behind the Smiles - Tia

The older I get the more I vacillate between REALLY wanting kids to the point I think about stealing my niece and running away to Brazil and NOT EVER EVER EVER wanting a child and giving my uterus up for adoption.

After hearing about the tragedy in Connecticut I couldn't imagine having to deal with never seeing the face of my mini-me again on Earth. I was not handling it well and what happened didn't even directly affect me or anyone I knew. I shut off my phone and shut out the world for a while.

This morning, I found this video on my friend's Facebook page when I returned to the world. It moved me to tears. It reminded me that we need to love those around us each and every day. We should never take for granted where someone is mentally. People are hurting and we sometimes get so wrapped up in our own faux problems and selfish ambitions, that we miss what's really going on. Someone could be on the verge of doing something drastic and we don't notice because we're too busy complaining about Starbucks not discounting soy milk with the Gold Card anymore.

We have to LOVE people. It's often the only thing that makes sense

Monday, December 10, 2012

He Tried It: Tracy Morgan Covers DeBarge's "All This Love" on Jimmy Fallon

So I was on Okayplayer today and saw that Tracy Morgan covered DeBarge's "All This Love" on Late Night with Jimmy Fallon last week.

No need to adjust your screen. That happened for real!

I have a feeling that a few people knew about this but decided not to tell me knowing how I freak out regularly over feel about El DeBarge. But you know what? He seems pretty sincere!  Bless his heart.  Hey, he tried it!  I'll give him a C for effort. I am well aware that the phrase is "A for effort" but watch this first before you correct me.

Friday, December 7, 2012

Toya Loves Cool James: Toya Meets LL Cool J in Nashville

Umm...I need a do over.

I know, I know.  This picture is perfect! I don't have a wonky eye. He looks like he is actually glad to be standing there with me even though I could barely get a hello out. But I still need a do over.  Why? Because I wasn't exactly at my coolest when I met LL Cool J Wednesday night. I was a ball of nerves.

When my friend Melissa asked me Saturday night if I had entered the Meet 'n Greet contest to meet LL, I quickly replied no.  Uh uh. No ma'am.  I understand that I want to interview people for a living and work in the entertainment industry but the fact of the matter is that to me LL Cool J is the most beautiful man alive.  Period. I don't care who you put him against.  On top of that he is a music legend with 30 years in the game.  I'm such a fan of what he has accomplished. Still even with that aside, he could be bagging groceries at Publix and I still would be tongue tied around him. I'd also spend half of my paycheck at Publix.

I entered my name anyway and to my surprise, both Melissa and I were selected to meet LL at Club Rozay (Yup! That's an actual name of a club.).  This is where I went wrong: I kept saying I was nervous. I was so nervous about being nervous that I didn't try to NOT be nervous.   Anytime I have met someone I admired, I have always come up with something clever to say to break the ice. But this time *Sigh* not so much.

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When LL arrived at the club and I saw him?  Oh. my. God. Oh I'm not using the Lord's name in vain. I had to call on Him! That face!  There was 30 years of hip hop history standing there!  I've been a fan since Krush Groove!  I turned to Melissa with tears in my eyes going "I can't do this. I cannot do this!"  It was just too surreal.  Melissa looked me dead in my eye.  "Ma'am. Get your life.  You are a blogger. You have got to get over it."  We walked over to the VIP section and got in line with the other people who had been selected to meet him.  I turned to Melissa and said "Can you please take a few pictures of me talking to him?  My camera is dying and I can't get the setting for this lighting right."  "Sure" she said. "Then when you are done, take my camera and take a picture of me." I waited with my stomach in knots as the person ahead of me took their picture with LL and then it was my turn.  The walk towards him felt like walking in a mile long wind tunnel. When I finally got to him, my shoulders hunched up around my ears as I somehow managed to muster the only thing I could get out to say to him. 

Me: *In a high pitched squeal* "Hiiiiiiiiii"
LL:  "Hi. It's nice to meet you."
Me: *Nods* Starts thinking "Hug him with one arm Toya. ONE ARM.  Do not reach over and touch his stomach. Just look at the cameras."

I lightly put my arm around him and smiled for the cameras in hopes that the picture would not reflect all of the topsy turvy emotions going on inside.  I then faced him and thought to myself "What am I going to say now?  Hurry! Quick! Say something!!!"

Remember in the movie A Christmas Story when Ralphie finally met Santa and sounded like his tongue had tripled in size? All he could do is sit there and stare and nod? It was kind of like that. Except I didn't get to sit on LL's lap because the Lord is merciful.

Toya: *blink* *blink* *blink*
LL: "Glad to meet you."
Me: *stare* *blink* *blink* *blink* *stare*

LL then takes my hand in both of his and looks into my eyes and says "It was really a pleasure to meet you". I started thinking "Oh my goodness are we about to have a moment?!?!?! Are we having a moment?!?!"

No fool.

It was then that I realized that LL Cool J is probably one of the most gracious people I have ever met. Because looking back that was his sweet attempt to end our time together so he could move onto the next person.  I just stared into his eyes and nodded wide eyed.  I then  hunched my shoulders around my earlobes again, turned around and tried to remember how to walk with the same feet I have been using for almost 38 years.

It wasn't until I walked out of the VIP section did I remember that Melissa and I had made a deal for me to take her camera so she could have a picture.  Once I realized that I had dropped the ball I yelled "Melissa! Melissa give me your camera!!!" By then she was getting her picture taken by the professional photographers hired to take pics to show up online the next day. Oh no! I couldn't believe I did that. When she walked over she said "I was calling you but you never turned around to get my camera!"  I didn't hear her. I couldn't hear anything.  Apparently I had become temporarily mute AND deaf at the same time.

"Well I didn't get a picture but you did. Here's your camera."  Melissa handed me my camera and I felt awful.  I later assured her that I wasn't going to post my picture until she got hers the next day.  She really wasn't upset at all but I was.  The next day I looked online and all of the pictures were up.  And when I saw mine,  I screamed.

"Why don't I remember this?!?!" I screamed! I don't remember being that close to him at all and I SHO' NUFF don't remember having my head on his chest!  How did I miss this moment?  People have asked me how he smelled, how his arms felt...I don't remember a thing.  All I know is that he is sweet as pie and has High Definition dimples.  He is one miracle of a man. Thank God this picture does not reflect what was happening with my nerves.

Even though I flunked in coolness this time around, next time I got it in the bag.  I will greet him again in my bamboo earrings (just one pair though. Those things are heavy!) with my baby hair pumpin' and lip gloss a shinin'.  I will tell him how proud I am of his accomplishments.  I may even ask him about how his daughters handle him being a sex symbol.  In other words, I will handle it like my normal self.  All in all, I regret nothing.  Everyone should be allowed one geek out moment in time and this one was mine. It couldn't have happened with a nicer guy. You never know what you are going to get when you finally meet your favorite celebrity.  I am so glad to say that after finally getting to meet LL Cool J, I can definitely say that I still and always will love Cool James.

Monday, December 3, 2012

We love BSB too - Tia

I know we talk about NKOTB a lot. I mean, they have their own label. But let's be clear, although I would act a fool with Donnie if given the opportunity (Hey Boo!) I like BSB as well.

I'll admit I was not as into them as I was NKOTB or N'Sync. At least not initially. But I respected their boybandness and bad grammar aside (See: "All I Have To Give") I still gets DOWN (yes GETS down) with BSB.

This was never more evident than the other day when I spent an hour driving through New Jersey doing car karaoke to some of my favorite BSB hits.

I love it when my rental car has a great sound system. Last week I was fortunate enough to get a Nissan Altima. I actually drive one of those in real life. And one of the main reasons for buying the car was the great sound system that comes standard. The factory speakers are incredible. There's no need to upgrade. But if I have the money I may do just that when I buy my next Altima. Because if the factories sound that good, what do the upgraded models sound like?

Anyway, I had my iPod on shuffle and "The Call" came on. IT. WAS. OVER!!!! That song is my JAM JAM JAM!!! Oooh...I may have to go listen to that right now and come back to this post.

BSB car karaoke made me realize that BGLU needs to show BSB a little more love. So in no particular order here are my top 5 favorite BSB songs.

The Call 

Backstreet Boys - The Call by Stella78

I almost feel bad about enjoying a song about someone doing dirt. Almost. Dirt or not, though...this is my song.

More Than That

*sigh* AJ SANGS!! You hear me...SANGS!! I don't know what old black man's voice AJ stole but somewhere there is an elderly black gentleman walking around sounding like a white dude.

And can we talk about how fine Kevin is in this video. I have to repeatedly tell myself that he is someone's husband. His wife better not EVER get caught slipping...EVER!

I Want It That Way

This song is still so much fun after all of these years. And I still clown the girl in the white shirt who was trying to be sexy and then at the end she turned into a giggly mess like the rest of them. Girl, quit playing. You're not supposed to try to be sexy. You're supposed to be a giggling, screaming mess like the rest of us. Please act accordingly.

If You Stay

Real talk, I'd never heard this track before I met Toya. Like everyone else, I slept on it because it didn't get any radio play. I would have remembered it had I heard on it any station, so the only conclusion I can draw is that it was never released as a single. 

But when I tell you Toya and I went bananas when they did it at the NKOTBSB show, please believe me. You could hear the silence of the unknown from the rest of the crowd. It felt like we were the only ones truly appreciating what was going on and the hotness of the song. And all those folks call themselves fans. I scoff at your fandemonium if you don't know this song.


My friend Megan and I used to have Boy Band Thursdays at our job. I'd make mix cds (that's how long ago this was) and we'd sing boy band songs and walk around all day quoting the lines from songs with a dead serious attitude and a straight face.

Me: Hey Megan?
Megan: Yeah?
Me: I don't need another life line.
Megan: Why?
Me: That's not for me.

We worked in a small office and needless to say our boss LOVED Thursdays. (He didn't.)

I know I'm not the only one showing BSB love in the 2010s. Shout out your favorite BSB track in the comments section or via The Twitter.

Sunday, December 2, 2012

Weekend Roundup

I'm not mad at this Old Navy Christmas ad with Jordan Knight. I have a lot of questions. But I'm not mad.

Jordan Davis was killed because someone with a short fuse had access to a gun. You can't tell me otherwise. You don't like that someone is playing their music loud...TOO BAD. You're at the gas station a grand total of 5-10 minutes TOPS. You deal with the loud music like ALL of us have at some point while filling up AND THEN YOU LEAVE. This man had NO business even getting out of his car in the first place.

I'm SO SICK of Florida I don't know what to do. - Orlando Sentinel

Joe Jackson had a stroke. - HuffPo

Number 15 NEVER stops being funny to me. - BuzzFeed

Katt Williams is on some next level stuff. I hope he gets the help he needs. - TMZ

Three of my friends shared this on Facebook. I'm no cynic but COME ON....Let's not be gullible just for the sake of being gullible. - Mashable

This is my new theme song until further notice.

Why does Mel B always look so GOOD? - Essence

Kerry Washington SHUT EVERYTHING DOWN in this dress on last week's Scandal. I mean,'s not fair.

And speaking of Scandal, who shot President Fitz on his birthday? That's foul. And I KNOW Mellie had a hand in this somehow. - PITNB

Often when the NYPD is in the news it's not for anything good. Glad to see a story like this. - ABCNews

Sunday, November 25, 2012

Weekend Roundup

I'm sorry, but kids are HILARIOUS!! - BuzzFeed

Halle Berry's baby daddy got his pretty little butt handed to him by Halle's current French piece. When your face is how you make money you don't go around getting in physical altercations and putting your moneymaker in danger. You send a strongly worded letter or get into a Twitter fight. - TMZ

And speaking of Twitter fights, this one between that kid from The Wanted and that other kid from One Direction was hilarious and pitiful. Seriously, these children need to sit down and learn from their elders. You never saw New Edition and NKOTB going at each other in Tiger Beat or BOP back in the day. - Perez Hilton

I literally cried out, "NOOOOOO" when I found out Larry Hagman died. I loved him on Dallas and Dallas 2.0. He was the O.G. soap opera villain. (Behind Ms. Lucci, of course.) - People

Did you eat your body weight in stuffing on Thursday? Well, this article will depress you with how many calories you probably consumed BUT it will also tell you what to do to burn the food off.  So it's sort of a win, right...? - USAToday

I know I already posted a BuzzFeed article. But I could not stop laughing at this one. And seriously, what is Pinterest? I honestly don't get it. - BuzzFeed

Happy Birthday to Robin Roberts from Good Morning America. Praying for your continued recovery. - ABC

Lil Wayne is retiring from rapping. (Insert Hallelujah choir here.) - Aceshowbiz

I've had a girl-crush on Melissa McCarthy for a while. And Sandy and I go way back. So I'm super excited about this movie.

On Black Friday I slept in and watched Jem and the Holograms on Netflix. These people did this. - Global Grind

They said tech gifts for KIDS...but...umm...I want most of these. - CNN

Downton AND Psych are coming back. Happy Thanksgiving to ME!! - Yahoo! and Yahoo!

Monday, November 19, 2012

Toya's 2012 American Music Awards Recap

As some of you may know, I normally refer to music award shows as The Hot Mess Championships but there weren’t too many artists who I would consider hot in this year’s show. It may as well be called The Lukewarm Mess Championships.  The reason being is that it is becoming more and more evident that the caliber of artists that fill the mainstream are so subpar in comparison to the artists of yesteryear.   I remember being a kid and being so excited about the AMA’s because I expected greatness. Now I look forward to them because I expect to clown the industry with the rest of online society. Sometimes you have to clown it to keep from crying about it.   Without further ado, here are my thoughts on this year’s AMA’s.

1. Prior to watching the AMA’s, we watched the performances from the Grammy’s Whitney Houston tribute (which took me to some feelings that I was not ready for. Whew!) And Usher? OMG he SANG!!!! I have never heard Usher sing with such clarity and skill in my life and I go WAY back with Usher Raymond.  I mean “Think of You” way back.  It was flawless. And then…

2. *While watching Usher’s opening AMA performance* You know, sometimes it's okay to lip sync.

3. Lyrics like "I'mma hit you wit’ a raincoat” is why I have so much ought against Usher’s career choices right now.  I’m not saying that Usher needs to wrap it up and aim solely for the Urban Adult Contemporary market.  I just want him to come off as a mature artist and not a maturing (i.e. getting too old for this) artist.

4. I'm so sad that Dick Clark didn't make it to see the 40th anniversary of the AMA's!

5. *Beyonce’s flashback* I can't believe "Single Ladies" was 4 years ago! You wait until that Beyonce' rein comes back.

6. Pitbull and Flo Rida are up for an award.  If any one of them win and don’t thank every Zumba instructor in the world, they don’t realize where their help comes from.

7. Oh but Justin Bieber winning? That's about right.

8. Did he really have to thank the haters though?  This is when you take a page from the book Taylor Swift: Write a hit song about haters (“Mean”) and then sit back and collect your money.  Let your haters work for you! I have a feeling that last line is going to be the title of somebody’s sermon next Sunday.

9.This reading the winners off of an electronic device: Have we learned nothing from Tiffany Greene?

10.  Speaking of Taylor Swift, yeah she won! That dress is workin’, girl!

11.  Confession: I have an inner 14 year old girl named Britney who is loving everything about Carly Rae Jepsen's performance. I will never get tired of "Call Me Maybe"!

12.  Pause: I see Brandy in the audience there but she's not performing? I'm not okay with that.

13.  They just introduced The Wanted.  Even as a boy band aficionado I don’t get it yet.

14.  From Twitter: “@Abbielicious The Wanted is like NKOTB Lite”.

15.  Wait. What’s with all of this hollerin’ and growlin’? Oh I don't like an angry boy band! This just took a terrible turn!   And now they want to end with all of them singing falsetto? See.  I would like to give them a homework assignment. Please refer to the tried and true boy band model that has been set in place from the beginning of time. You have one, ONE, guy that does falsetto. Please Google Jordan Knight and get back to me.

16.  Randy Jackson just introduced Kelly Clarkson’s performance.  I can't believe it's been 10 years since she won Idol. Wow! She’s killin’ right now.

17.  Ooooooh Ne-Yo is wearing those glasses in tribute to Jazzy Jeff and Fresh Prince!!! Right??? O_O

18.  Nicki Minaj just won a hip hop award.  This is the world we live in. So "Starships" is hip hop? Oh wait, it's rap. Okay.

19.  Yes standing O for Cyndi Lauper!  I want her to be my auntie.  Hold up. Cyndi Lauper just introduced Ke$ha with an introduction so grand.  I think she said something about her being responsible for pop’s comeback? Umm…yes Cyndi Lauper can still be my auntie. She’ll just be that crazy aunt that says things that don’t make sense but you love her and nod lovingly in approval.

20.  My tweet during Ke$ha’s performance: “No one look directly at the screen. Look past the screen. In fact, go get a snack. #Darksided

21.  This “Die Young” song is a perfect example of how we all could stand to be more careful about what lyrics we agree with when we sing them. That's really all I have to say about that. And while that’s all I have to say, let me share with you what Lici, who actually could stand to watch the performance, had to tweet about it…

“What in the name of all things STUPID is happening right now?! Me thinks I've just disrespected stupid things…I'm just saying, ,if I KNEW I'd be dying young, I doubt I'd be flailing about and dancing in a swimsuit made of candy crumbs, with men in Lycra.”  

That about sums it up right there for me.

22.  Yes No Doubt!  Gwen Stefani make me feel good about turning 40 in a few years.

23.  Oh I thought we just went into "Spiderweb"! I just got crunk! Clearly I don't know this song.

24.  Sssshhh...Kerry Washington is presenting...let the earth fall silent before her.

25.  That moment when you remember that Linkin Park is still around....*Looks around awkwardly* Good for them! Thumbs up!

26.  This is my song! Wait...every Taylor Swift song is my song. Never mind.

27.  This song is so pop and I love it! Taylor Swift is getting her coins in EVERY genre, hear? Watch for her in Southern Gospel next year. They still doing Gaither Homecoming?

28.  Aawwww they gave Usher an award!!!! That sounded so condescending but...still. Alright! #AMAs

29.  And then he gets onstage and cusses. COME ON USHER!!!!! *Sigh*

30.  Every time I see Lady Antebellum, my mind still wants that to be Lance Bass.

31.  I'm buying Luke Bryan’s new single and I don't even know what it is. He is precious!  You betta Holy Ghost shout, Luke Bryan!

32.  I'm so shocked to see Linkin Park that I'm waiting to see if Limp Bizkit is scheduled to perform too. I am so behind when it comes to Alternative Rock. My timeline is at a standstill right now. I don’t think we know what to make of this performance.
I think that if I was actually there I'd be crunk right now. I mean, there's pyro...

33.  Nicki Minaj is on and her set looks like she should be singing “Walking in a Winter Wonderland” which is completely fine. What has me scratching my head though is that this performance seems to be entirely made up of her sitting on this bench rapping. Like…is that it?

34.  If this is the entire performance...

35.  NO! NOT A CHOIR NOT A CHOIR NOT A CHOIR NOT A CHOIR NOT A CHOIR NOT A CHOIR!!!! Why must there ALWAYS be a choir?!  Okay. I will say this. It was the most tolerable performance of hers I have EVER seen. Ever.

36.  P!nk is giving me So You Think You Can Dance Mia Michaels realness right now and I am loving it!

37.  And THAT's how it's done folks.

38.  Backstreet Boys are presenting!  HEEEEEEEEEEEEY Kevin Richardson!!!! WAAAAAAAAAAIT Kevin Richardson!!!!! Umm... what in the name of Sherlock Holmes is going on with his facial hair right now?  Eh well.

39.  People still have love for BSB. I like it.

40.  Yeaaaaaah Carly Rae Jepsen won!!!! #AMAs

41.  This. Is. My. Song.  Justin Bieber’s “As Long As You Love Me” is one of my favorite pop songs of this year.

42.  Melinda to me: "Uuh uh. DO NOT body roll."

43.  Soooo what are we now going to do about that Selena line in “Beauty and the Beat”? *Awkwardly looks around*

44.  I'm glad EDM has a category right now even though I don't really get it.

45.  They just showed a commercial for Nicki Minaj’s new perfume.  Even the perfume bottle looks darksided! What is really going on?!

46.  From Twitter: *Screaming* Go. to. the. corner. NOW Abbie! “ @abbielicious613: That is the exact opposite of Holy Water.”

47.  Okay Gloria Estefan!  She introduced Christina Aguileira.  I'm nervous about this.

48.  And the “This Idea Was So Much Better on Paper” award goes to Christina Aguileira’s creative team.  What in the world? Are those the Village People?

49.  Christina Aguileira's  performance is a compilation of all of the dreams I have ever had after eating nachos before bedtime.  This is an example of…so many things. For one, this  and Usher’s performance says to me that we have stars who say “I am so and so and therefore my performance needs to be big”. Whereas you have stars like P!nk who say “I am so and so and therefore my performance needs to be excellent.”   That’s why she doesn’t struggle to stay relevant.

50.  Y'all...we have one more hour. OMG. This Dick Clark tribute must be reeeeaaaaallly long.

51.  I should probably be working off this Jet's Pizza I ate tonight to this Pitbull performance right now.

52.  I need Jenny McCarthy's glasses!

53.  Justin Bieber's record is good. It just is. I hope he wins. And it did but not before Jenny McCarthy attacked Justin Bieber, grabbed him and kissed him.  He did NOT look happy about that. What is wrong with people?

54.  How was Nicki Minaj's album nominated for a Pop award?????? What is...never mind.  I blame myself. She gets nominated for a hip hop award and I get mad. She gets nominated for a pop award and I still get mad. It’s not her, it’s me. Clearly.

55.  We ALL know that Carrie Underwood can't hear herself right correctly right? Because this is not her. That girl sings.

56.  From Twitter: Angelina. Leg. “ @mdoolittle: Carrie Underwood can sing. And her Angelina leg looks AMAZING! “

57.  Brandy is onstage saying a few words about Whitney Houston.  Does her management office have an outside suggestion box because I have a grievance.  I’m no expert but why is she not performing tonight?  One could argue that she may be performing at the Grammys and the stipulation of not performing at the Grammys if you perform at the AMAs may still be in place.  If that’s the case, I still wish she’d do the AMA’s over the Grammys. The AMA’s have always been about pop (as in popular) music. I think that she deserves the chance to show that she is still important to the pop genre.

58.  I see a praise dance team standing in the aisles. What is about to happen?

59.  I'd be lying if I said I wasn't downloading this "Everyday Birthday song" that Chris Brown, Ludacris and Swizz Beats are doing to wake me up for my birthday.  This song is everything!

60.  Nicki Minaj’s acceptance speech. I just..we watched it about two more times after it came on. I STAY confused over this.

61.  Carrie Underwood won an award and thanked God. Someone thanked God! Remember when people did that? No? They used to a long time ago. Even Sisquo did when he won an award for “The Thong Song”. True story.

62.  Dick Clark’s tribute is being given by Stevie Wonder.  Stevie Wonder just did a medley reminding us of what music should do for people. Who is out now with songs that everyone can stand together and feel good about? *Sigh*

63.  Justin Bieber just won the Artist of the Year award and brought his mama to the stage which is sweet.

64.  *Psy hits the stage* Ladies and gentleman, I present to you The Macarena 2.0!

And then…it happened. Psy brought out Hammer for a mashup of “Gangnam Style” and “2 Legit to Quit”.

65.  My actual tweet: “WHAT WHAT WHAHT WHAT AHFIOhdgnoaijgry\o ivjprj iblajgroiajrnhoakfgnboakentgbiq j[gi0aj r[qbar]qapijgrqapjigrpajeoijoirgkarejpng;I”

66.  Where is Oaktown 357????!

67.  Best performance of the night!  That BLESSED ME!!!! YES!!!!!! Put on the Hammer and you WILL be rewarded, Psy!!!

*Fifteen minutes later*

68.  I am still hyped! They put him in the mix! Yes Hammer!

The last performance of the night was the only one in my opinion that could even measure up to the hype of performances in years past. It was definitely one for the books. As for some of the others…

What did you all think about it?

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Dirty Loops is my new favourite thing - Tia

(Yes, I spelled favorite with a "U" on purpose.) 

I had the following text conversation last weekend with my musical soulmate, Brandon:

Brandon - Am I tardy for the party or have you heard of Dirty Loops?
Me - Is that a real thing?
B - Please for the love of all things ever, Youtube Dirty Loops' Rolling in the Deep and Baby.
M - Okay. I'll get back to you.

Twenty minutes later...
M - OH! EM! GEE!! This is my new favorite thing.
B - I'm saying!!!!

That was how Dirty Loops became my new everything and I've decided that I need to either marry the lead singer or move to Sweden and find someone like him.

I can not stop listening to everything they have on Youtube and everywhere else. And I'm wondering how I'm just now finding out about them. They are everything I believe in. Real instruments. Amazing vocals. And can I give a standing ovation to the bass player. My LAWD!!!! He is sick. SIIIIIIICCCCCCCK!!! Please check the video at 1:42. I felt bad for all bassists everywhere after watching this. How do you pick up your instrument after seeing something like that?

I've been stalking the group since Saturday. They currently have no plans to tour through the states. (Which needs to change IMMEDIATELY.) But per their Google Hangout chat they are working on an album of original material. (That needs to happen IMMEDIATELY.) So should I ever get tired of their videos (like that's even a possibility) I'll eventually have something to put on my iPod and listen to until...well, until Jesus' glorious return.

All joking aside, I'm so heartened by this group. I LOVE music. REAL music. Sure, I like the mindless pop stuff just as much as the next girl. But I feel like musicianship and talent are often sacrificed for units moved and songs downloaded. So when we get something that's this AMAZING it reminds us what music is and should always be and gives us hope that all is not lost. Trust me, the second you hear Dirty Loops you will instantly be on board. I promise it will make your day.

You can check out Dirty Loops on Facebook, their website, the Twitter and if you feel so led, Myspace.'re welcome.

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Weekend Roundup

Four More Years

Justin and Selena broke up. Oh well...they're young. They'll be fine. - People

Lance Armstrong posted this picture of all of his Tour de France jerseys. It kind of makes him look like a whiny child. - Yahoo!

Adultery is not funny. Getting busted because your mistress was threatening someone via email is a bit funny. You can't do dirt and expect it to not come back on you. - CNN

This interview with Lark Voorhies is really sad. - Radar Online

I didn't think the Swedes did stuff like this. - BuzzFeed

Twilight comes out Friday. I would be lying if I said I hadn't considered going to the midnight showing. Then I remembered these are the people who go to midnight shows. - USAToday

Dear Facebook - No thank you. - Mashable

Are tickets for Transformers 4 on sale yet? - Just Jared

I need Jermaine JACKSON to go somewhere and have every seat available. - Black America Web

I remember this movie. It was called I Am Legend.

Friday, November 2, 2012

Throwback Video of the Week - Tia

Toya and I often joke that if we could clear out all of the random songs that are hiding in the crevices of our minds would have been straight A students, Rhodes Scholars and found the cure for cancer and AIDS.

I'm always amazed when a song that I've completely forgotten about somehow works its way back into my life and I am ruined for the rest of the day.

I was playing SongPop this morning and the category was Boy Bands. (Aside: if you're any kind of music lover and you're not playing SongPop then you are completely missing out.) I guessed "Anything" in 0.7 seconds. It took me less than a full second to A.) guess the song and B.) become completely flooded with memories.

3T's "Anything" came out the summer of my years of high school...I'm not saying which one. My friend Salena and I would just ride around in my Volkswagen Fox with no particular destination in mind mostly because we could. Gas was less than a dollar. And we had no real responsibilities. So cruising around, singing songs and eating Tommy's Pizza (extra sauce, please) was usually the order of the day.

I loved Michael Jackson more than words could accurately express. So it took no convincing for me to get on board with 3T. They were cute. They could sing. They were related to Michael Jackson. Enough said. And "Anything" hit all of the right marks. A brokenhearted teenage anthem with hot harmonies. YES and THANK YOU!!!

As soon as I finished playing SongPop this morning I opened iTunes up and downloaded the song. I may or may not have it on repeat right now. And I may or may not have gotten up to bodyroll (more than once) at the three part harmony at the end of the bridge.

I read that 3T is back in the studio working on new music. Oooohh, I hope that's true. I will willfully and wholeheartedly receive bodyroll inducing harmonies from these Jacksons any day.

Thursday, November 1, 2012

Shameless Product Endorsement of the Week - Tia

Old Navy - Women's Peter Pan Collar Wool Blend Coat

I work too hard to be ballin' on a budget. - Chris Brown 

Once again I completely disagree with Chris Brown. I work hard. Yet I CHOOSE to ball on a budget. Between trying to buy a house and my incessant love of foreign travel, frivolously spending money is just not my M.O. But that doesn't mean I can't have nice things. 

I have wanted a cream coat for at least 4 seasons now. I saw a gorgeous one while I was in NYC. But the idea of keeping a cream coat clean in New York, while having to ride the subway, seemed like an exercise in futility.

But every Autumn/Winter without fail I will walk into a store, stare longingly at a cream colored coat and for whatever reason I DON'T purchase it.

Then my girl crush, Keri Washington, did her baddest chick walk in a cream coat on Scandal and I KNEW I had to get one.

I ventured out to Old Navy to exchange a sweatshirt that was far too large. (Yes, there is such a thing a too large of a sweatshirt.) And thanks to excellent placement of their winter coats, I immediately laid eyes on what is sure to be flyest piece of my winter wardrobe.

My biggest complaint with most coats is that I feel trapped if I wear I sweater. Of course I can overcompensate in the size of the coat but then I look like I'm wearing a very stylish cream colored garbage bag. What I immediately loved about this coat is that there was room in it without my having to purchase an XXXL. I didn't feel like this was going to happen to me if I wore a bulky sweater.

I will say that I was initially a bit apprehensive about the Peter Pan collar. I'm usually not a fan of that particular style because I feel like it's overly girlie just for the sake of being girlie. I normally prefer sharper edges, but in this instance the Peter Pan collar works. And I like that if I feel so inclined I could drape an infinity scarf around my neck without diminishing the look of the coat or the scarf getting lost in the folds of the collar. (I feel like those two things happen to me a lot. Maybe I just don't know how to wear an infinity scarf.)

I'm fighting the urge to go back and get the coat in another color. I went through a gold/yellow phase this summer that's trying to wiggle its way into the Fall. And OF COURSE this coat comes in a delicious gold color...of course. Not to mention that I think everyone should have a gorgeous black coat. *sigh* Decisions...decisions.

You can pick up the coat at I'm not sure why, but the online store says it's not available in stores. It's possible initially it was not going to be carried in stores but it certainly is now. Depending on color, the coat is $10-20 cheaper online and any purchases over $50 qualify for free shipping. So if you don't have to have it RIGHT RIGHT NOW, you can save a buck or two by ordering online.

I left something in my car and need to run outside. A sweatshirt would probably due but...I mean...I have the coat so why not. And I may or may not do an Olivia Pope walk out to the car in my new coat. (I'm TOTALLY about to do that.)

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Oh, the places you'll Atlanta - Tia

El Myr
"Call us the next time you're in town. We'll go to El Myr. It's become one of our favorite places."

That was a text I received from a friend who'd recently relocated to Atlanta. I'd had some difficulty convincing he and his girlfriend that this hole in the wall place outside of their normal stomping grounds of Buckhead would be well worth the drive, the hassle of parking and the smoky bar atmosphere. But once anyone takes their first bite of anything El Myr, they are hooked.

I honestly can't remember how I was first introduced to El Myr. It's at the far end of L5P (Little 5 Points). Other than to park, I didn't really have a lot of reasons to wander down that way. I'm certain I had to have walked by it dozens of times and somehow never took notice of it. But now I honestly can't imagine my life without it.

I dream about the nachos from El Myr. I woke up today and even though I had a flight at 1:55 and El Myr doesn't open until noon, I knew I HAD to get some nachos...TODAY!!! 

Besides amazing nachos, El Myr has some of the best burritos I've ever eaten. I promise you, the Skillet Burrito will have you unabashedly licking the plate. Actually, now that I'm thinking about it I've never had anything I didn't like at El Myr. 

I love that they have Woodchuck Pear Hard Cider on draft. (I consider myself something of a hard cider lush connoisseur.) But sometimes all you want with your Mexican food is a margarita. Don't worry, El Myr has you covered. With something like 12 different kinds of margaritas, you're sure to find something you like. Personally, I'm a Patron girl. And even though I've tried, I can never quite get my Patron margaritas at home to taste like the ones at El Myr. 

The ONLY downside to the place is that they allow smoking. So if you're in any way averse to cigarette smoke, call your order in for carry out. Or if you're lucky enough to live close by, you can have them bring it to you. That's right...they deliver. Could this place get any better? 

I know I just had El Myr today but I'm seriously considering eating there again this weekend. I have to be on that side of town anyway, so why not have some delicious nachos and a margarita. I mean, who wouldn't want to spend their weekend eating and drinking. It's an American eat Mexican food. 

You can check out El Myr on their website or on Facebook. Or better yet, just swing by and order some nachos. And try not to lick the plate when you're done.

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

I'm still not buying it - Tia

Unless you live under some sort of social media rock, you've seen the pictures and heard the commotion surrounding Zoe Saldana as Nina Simone.

I, like a lot of people, initially thought this was the worst casting (insert Kanye voice here) OF ALL TIME!!!

These pictures have done little to dissuade me from believing that this is going to be a hot mess of a movie.

Now hear me: this is in NO way a slight against Zoe Saldana or her acting skills. I like her. Loved her in Columbiana. Overall, I think she's a fantastic actor. My grievance is with Hollywood and their need to continue to shun darker-skinned actors. I mean did we REALLY need to put Zoe Saldana in blackface? (I don't care what you say. This is blackface and you can't convince me otherwise.) Was there NO ONE else available for this role? Is Viola Davis out of town, the country not on Earth right now? Because you know she would have been a BEAST in this role. It would have been her Angela Bassett in What's Love Got To Do With It role.

I constantly feel like Hollywood continues to give what few roles there are for women of color to the "Safe Black" actors. "Safe Black" is a term that Toya introduced me to when she worked for a company that did a bit of advertising for real estate. "Safe Blacks" are lighter-skinned, often have long curly hair and are of indistinguishable race, very non-threatening. Take a look at the latest flyer from your favorite store. Pay attention to the commercials that come on. Peep the next runway show for most designers. The faces of color you do see will most likely fall into the "Safe Black" category.

One would think that when casting a movie about Nina Simone, the producers would have approached an Octavia Spencer or a Viola Davis. But from what I've read the writer of this movie has taken all kinds of liberties with the film. If that's the case, casting Zoe should not really come as that much of a surprise.

As I turned the idea of Zoe Saldana over and over in my head, I began to wonder if I'm not just as guilty as Hollywood. They continue to ignore black actors and I sit here and blog about it, further perpetuating the negativity. I mean, aside from the need for blackface make-up and prosthetic nose, who's to say that Zoe won't BEAST this role? Have I become so distracted by her looks that I'm discrediting her abilities? Isn't that what I'm blaming the casting directors of Tinseltown of doing?

I don't know...I'm still not convinced that this movie is going to fly. At this point I'm not remotely interested in seeing it. They didn't even contact the family regarding the movie, so it can't be that accurate.

(There's a great interview with Nina Simone's Daughter here. I initially embedded the interview but I couldn't get the auto play to stop and I find that really obnoxious.)

Who knows, maybe Zoe will give the performance of her life and have the rest of us eating crow. I genuinely hope she knocks this one out of the park. But even if she does, that won't fix the larger problem that shows no signs of abating in Hollywood. Until more men and women of color gain attain more reputable roles on television and in movies, REGARDLESS of their complexion, we will continue to have this same discussion and argue these same points. And frankly, I'm kind of over it.

Monday, October 29, 2012

Get Your Anger in Check with Common, Colbie Caillat and Sesame Street

When Common said to breathe around the :06 mark,  I realized that I pretty much had stopped breathing for about 5 seconds anyway so the reminder was helpful.  Common is for the children!   Check out this video of him and Colbie Caillat helping kids to calm down and control their anger by remembering to breathe. 

Sunday, October 28, 2012

What Ever Happened To...R&B Girl Group Edition - Tia

I have so many songs on my iPod. Not to mention all of the songs I have on my computer. And then there are the jump drives...You get the idea. I have a lot of music.

When you have so many songs, it's commonplace to come across a song/group that begs the question, "What ever happened to him/her/them?"

Today while shuffling through playlists at the gym I found myself wondering what ever happen to...

I saw RichGirl perform a live show on Palladia. Unlike a lot of their counterparts, these broads could actually sing. (I once saw a Pussycat Dolls show that was a train wreak. Nicole Snuffleupagus really was the ONLY one that could really sing.) They're all really cute AND can sing. I really expected more from them. But after "He Ain't Wit Me Now" I didn't hear a peep out of these chicks. That's regrettable.  I feel like people/groups with talent should be the ones who get the most singles. But somehow we continue to be inundated with Nicki Minaj songs.

"Do It To It" remains one of my favorite workout jams. Maybe it's because of my affinity for Atlanta. Or maybe it's just because it's a hot song. Whatever the case, I have made at least 5 workout mixes since I downloaded the song a couple of years ago and DITI has been on every one.

According to Wikipedia (which we all know is always COMPLETELY accurate), Cherish had a handful of singles. Yeah...I don't recognize any of the titles. Wiki also says that the group is still active. Yeeeeeaaahhhh...Until I here a song on the radio/Pandora/Spotify, Cherish stays on the "What Ever Happened To" List

I LOVED JADE!!! I thought their answering machine greeting at the beginning at the song was so cute. I did NOT, however, like "5-4-3-2 (Yo! Time is up)" mostly because of the title.

It's one thing when groups break up. I know that happens and it's just part of the music business. But it's a completely different thing when groups just seem to fall off the face of the earth. I feel like that's what happened with Jade. One day they were on 90210 (does anyone remember that episode?) The next day one of them was singing gospel and one of them was singing back up for Rod Stewart. I guess  stuff just happens and groups don't necessarily break up, they just...cease to be.


I like that Zhané had the good sense to name their first album Pronounced Jah-Nay because otherwise folks would have been running around saying their name all kinds of wrong.

Something about Zhané always set then apart from the groups of the 90s in my mind. I think it was because they seemed a bit more Neo-Soulish than a lot of the people who were out at the time. I realize now that they're sound was reflective of their Philly origin and something in me loves the vibe of music from around those parts. (I also love the MEN of Philly but we'll talk about that another time.) I really hope these ladies are still somewhere doing Philly...with hot guys.

Alright y'all, Facebook, Tweet or comment on some of your favorite "Whatever Happened To" groups.  And if you know the current statuses of any of the above, PLEASE let me know. And if I bump into any of the girls from Cherish around the ATL, I'll be sure to ask them what they're up to. It could happen.

Saturday, October 27, 2012

Weekend Roundup

I need to figure out how I can become friends with Michelle Obama. - LA Times

Usher has too much money. Let me hold something Ush. - People

Apple announced the iPad 4, renders iPad 3 that was released in March obsolete and pisses off a lot of people all in one day. (Steve would have NEVER allowed this.) - Cult of Mac

I continue to love Tina Fey. - Buzzfeed

My homegirl in my head, Solange, is dropping a new album in November. - ONTD

Shannon over at Pink Is The New Blog pretty much wrote the best summary of Thursday night's episode of Scandal. - PITNB

Wyclef will be joining the cast of Nashville. I have never been more confused about a show's casting in all my days. - Rolling Stone

Adele had a baby. Now maybe she can get back to making music...I mean congratulations. - HuffPo

I am way too excited about the new "Iron Man" trailer.

I was wondering if they were going to make Lance Armstrong give back his Tour de France money. - Chicago Sun Times

I'm unclear on how women could support a man with "binders full of women." - NewsOne

Speaking of Binders Full of Women, this tumblr gets funnier every day. - Binders Full of Women

Friday, October 26, 2012

Tim Gunn Barbies!! TIM GUNN BARBIES!!! - Tia

I STAN for Tim Gunn!! Seriously, when I lived in NYC I used to pray that I would run into him leaving Parsons. He would see me and take pity on my paltry attire. Something about me would make him want to reach out and style this poor girl who has potential, but needs a bit of guidance. ( daydreams are vivid, bordering on creepy. Don't Judge Me!!!!)

However, I didn't even live in NY for a "new york minute." So sadly, my dream never happened.

Tim was in Nashville for the local Fashion Week but I was out of town (per usual) and was unable to stalk meet him. But I still hold out hope that some day, some how, Tim Gunn is going to style me. Even if it's just for one outfit, Tim is going to pick out something fabulous for me and as I strut away he will quietly utter, "Make it work."

Until then, I CAN GET HIS BARBIE!!!

I wish y'all could have seen my face when I saw this doll. I don't know how I missed the release of this collection back in August but I fully intend to make up for that by buying all of the dolls and their matching accessories. And I am not the LEAST bit ashamed of that.

Confession: I had NO SHINE for Barbies when I was little. I had some because my mother and aunt were determined to girlie me up a bit. But I stuck to my books, my Speak & Math and my Transformers. (Oh and what you need to know is that I still currently own two working Speak & Maths.) I was a geeky tomboy.

But let Tim Gunn slap his style on a doll and I'm ALLLLLLLLLL in. I NEED to have this. Okay, I don't need it. But I REALLY REALLY want it. I mean, she has ACCESSORIES!!! This doll is dressed better than me and I don't care.

I love Tim's passion about this project. I can't NOT support him.

If you are gleefully clapping your hands and spinning in your chair (no....just me...?) and need to get the dolls right now (I'm typing this with one hand because I have my keys in the other, ready to dash out the door to get these) you can order them from the Barbie Collector site. They are also available at Target.

Now if you'll excuse me...Carry on people....carry on.

Shameless Product Endorsement of the Week - Tia

What you should know about me is I'm a little bit lazy. I want to be cute without effort. The problem is SOME kind of effort is required in order for one to be presentable when one leaves the house. 

Enter: Express' Sexy Stretch leggings. 

My problem with most leggings is three fold: 
1. They are super thin and people can see the Supergirl logo on my undies if I don't wear a long top. 
2. They are MAD short. Most leggings unintentionally end up stopping at my calf because apparently designers think that only runway and fit models are taller than 5'5". *coughI'malmost5'10"cough*
3. They just don't come in my size. I'm a size 12. I am hips, thighs and butt. No shame. But why is it that I can find a pair of Gap Skinny jeans to fit me faster than I can find a pair of leggings? Shouldn't that be the other way around?

Because of the trifecta of issues, I usually just skipped leggings altogether. The only reason I even gave Express' leggings a try is because I was lazy and needed something quick to wear under my Duke sweatshirt. 

With the move, I'd inadvertently packed all of my sweats. Three days before I was to depart I just didn't have the mental capacity to figure out which box my winter clothes were in. On a one off trip to the mall I wandered into Express to try to find a skirt and just happened upon the leggings. I truly believe I only entertained them out of desperation. I didn't want to have to move in jeans. 

I don't think I'd ever fallen in love so quickly with an article of clothing. I looked at myself from every angle in that fitting room. I could NOT see the polka dots on my chonies because of the thickness of the leggings. I also COULD NOT see my ankles because the leggings were long enough. And most importantly I did not look like I'd been stuffed into a sausage casing. Express Leggings for the WIN!!!

I proceeded to buy two pairs as they were buy one get one half off. Not gonna lie: I'll probably end up buying several more pairs. They're thin enough that I'm not sweating to death on the days when the weather doesn't remember it's not summer anymore. But they're not so thin that you can count the stars on my undiepants. And any article of clothing that I can dress up should my laziness abate or dress down should my normal nature win out is an automatic staple in my wardrobe. 

You can get the leggings here. And you totally should. You know if I'm plugging something I completely believe in it. BGLU doesn't just slap our seal of approval on any old thing. 

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Throwback Video of the Week - Tia

So Justin Timberlake got married. Good for him. That Jessica girl seems nice.

But what I really want to talk about is how he allegedly didn't invite, NOT ONE, member from 'N Sync.  Now the rumor goes he didn't want his wedding to turn into an 'N Sync reunion. IF that is the case, Justin needs to be punched in the adam's apple in my humble opinion. are you just NOT going to invite the dudes who you essentially spent every waking moment of your teenage years with to your wedding because you're afraid someone MIGHT ask y'all to sing ONE song? And would that have been that bad?!?! 

I mean, I understand how you could still be a little salty at them because they did let you out looking like this:

But they also let this happen. So maybe they just didn't know that those particular hairstyles were a poor choice for both of you. 

Whatever the case, I think not inviting your former boybanders to your wedding is shade with an umbrella on a cloudy day. 

So in honor of Justin's wedding, this week's throwback video is "Gone." Because if we learned nothing else from this video, we knew that Justin would leave JC, Chris, Lance and Joey behind and do his own thing without looking back. Kudos to you, Justin. If those guys couldn't figure out that you didn't have ANY shine for them when you made this video then that is completely on them for not paying attention. 

Things I learned while moving - Tia

As you may or may not know, I moved back to Atlanta. (YES...again.) The house I was renting in Nashville sold and I just flat out refused to rent anymore when I could buy and pay less for something that I could eventually own. 

So I once again packed up my belongings and made the trip down south for what I hope will be the last time for a very long while. 

A person learns a lot about themselves when they are forced to categorize, box and move their personal possessions. Here are a few things I learned about myself in the last few weeks. 

1. Moving makes me emotional
I don't know if this move was just more stressful than the others because a. I was trying to buy a house at the same time and b. I'm older. But for whatever reason, I cried daily for the last two weeks of my move. I cried because I couldn't figure out how to box my kitchen stuff. I cried because I couldn't find my faux leather skirt. (Never did locate that thing.) I cried because Toya wouldn't be just around the corner anymore. I cried because a week before I left I had to drop a $1000 to get my car fixed, so I could pass emissions, so I could get my tags. (Now THAT was cry worthy. GEEZ!!!) 

Yes, I cry. But y'all I CRIED. Sat in my car and cried. Sat in my closet and cried. Sat on my get the idea. I came to realize that I HATE moving. I've done it so many times in the past 5 years. And it's always stressful. But this time I came to loathe to cardboard boxes. I thought about throwing everything in the street and setting it on fire á la Waiting to Exhale. I thought about joining the circus...and, yes, I would have sung this everyday whilst there.

I eventually pulled it together and got everything moved but it was not without tears and aggravation. Which brings me to the next point. 

2. I am FAR too lazy to move myself. 
Because I'm saving money for a down payment, earnest money payment and possible closing costs, shelling out money for good reliable movers was not in the budget. But knowing who I am, I knew I was not going to move too many boxes into a truck and drive it. No Ma'am. So I did what any other financially challenged, single girl with few male friends would do, I turned to Craigslist. 

I'm quite certain if I looked hard enough I could purchase a country on Craigslist. But that will have to wait for later. Anyway, I hired the first set of movers I could find that were within my price range and ensured. The good thing about that is other than what I had to put in my car, I did lift nary a box. The down side was one of the movers was a little crazy, tried to argue theology with my friend who has a Master's in Theology and he did so much talking that the other guy who was half his size did a lot of the moving. (The latter was the one I tipped.) 

So word of advice, movers on Craigslist are often there for a reason. If you go that route, make sure you're not alone when they get there and keep your expectations CRAZY low. 

3. It's past time to get my life started. 
One of the reasons I felt like I needed to leave Nashville was because I felt stagnation setting in. You know what I hang out at Starbucks with your friends. You go out to eat. You work out. You do a lot of...NOTHING. I knew that if I stayed, my days would turn into weeks would turn into months of doing nothing. I know people who love Nashville and thrive in it. I am not one of those people. And if I wasn't careful, I would end up doing a lot of nothing and wishing that weren't the case. So I encourage each and every one of you to make sure you're in a place where you're inspired. You may not have to make a huge geographical move but you may very well have to rearrange some things (and some people) in order to get your life in gear. 

So the word of the day is INSPIRED. Do something that will make you feel awesome and will give a little something back to the world around you. 


Friday, October 19, 2012

Fun Music Friday- Janet Jackson's "Pleasure Principle"

Hands down my favorite Janet Jackson video of all time. I wanted, no, I NEEDED to be Janet when she did this.  I spent days trying to get the sequence down from the 4:00 minute mark.  Don't act like I was the only one who almost killed themselves trying to step over a chair while trying to learn these dance steps either.

Question: Does anyone really understand what she's talking about in this song?  I do love the lyric "You may think I'm crazy but I'm serious. It's better you know now."  Sometimes you need to warn people. LOL!  Have a happy weekend everybody. 

Monday, October 15, 2012

Weekend Roundup

I was just as surprised as everyone else about Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman splitting up (30 years...what was the "last straw" that y'all couldn't work it out after 30 years?!?!?!!?) But as long as Tina Fey and Amy Poehler stay together, I'm good.  - Daily Mail UK

Carlton Banks Alfonso Ribeiro got married - People

For all of my fellow Marvel fans: AGENT COULSON IS BACK!! YAY!!! - TV Line

It's almost Halloween. That means it's time for underwhelmed children dressed in costumes they hate and don't understand. - Buzzfeed

Apparently, Tyra's new show is going to be called Fivehead. Make your paper girl. - Deadline Hollywood

Next year, Toya and I HAVE TO GO to Black Girls Rock! - BET

I feel like every time a new iPhone comes out, there's a story about them tracking their users. What are y'all doing over there at Apple? - Newser

And speaking of iPhones, SNL's iPhone skit will make you feel like a jerk for complaining about your 1st world smart phone problems. - The Stir

I love me some Brad Pitt. But I don't feel no kind of way about this Chanel No 5 commercial. In fact, I think I may actually DISLIKE it. It's...odd