Friday, October 7, 2011

Fun Music Friday: Robin S "Show Me Love"

Get out your glowsticks and get your vogue on! I am posting this as a fun song to groove to but in all seriousness we could all stand to soak in these lyrics. "Words are so easy to say. You've got to SHOW me love."

The other day I was talking with a friend of mine who said something that had I heard (and heeded) years ago could've saved me a lot of heartache. She said that sometimes people confuse love with need. Someone may need you but they may not love you. And the thing is they don't always know it. Because they confuse one with the other, they go through the motions as if it is actually love. Then when they stop needing you, they take that as they have stopped loving you. One of the worst feelings I have ever felt is having someone say that they loved me and then deny it once they stopped needing me. She said that the right relationship must have all of these three things: love, need and desire. Wait... I've heard that before!

And I begged her not to walk out the door
She packed her bags and turned right away
And she kept on telling me
She kept on telling me
I want you
I need you
but there aint no way I'm ever gonna love you
Now don't be sad
'Cause two out of three aint bad
- Meatloaf "Two Out of Three Aint Bad"

*Sound of record scratching in the middle of the song*

Two out of three aint bad? The hell it aint!

For years I did not understand how you could say you need a person and not love them. Thinking about it now, part of love is wanting what's best for the other person. It's not love if you only want to be with that person because you feel that you need them for what they do for you and how they make you feel, yet you have no regard for their well being. That's not love, that's leeching. Hindsight is so 20/20.

Let's all get free and make room for the right people in our lives so we can get to singing this...

Have a great weekend everyone!


Niki said...

Even Patti Labelle breaks it down 'Love and Need and Want You" baby! lol

Christina said...

I have to comment on "Show Me Love". I was at the ASCAP Music conference a few months ago and they had a panel on "Women In Music" which was excellent. I learned that the melody for "Show Me Love" was actually written by Andrea Martin but she never got credit for them. She was working as a demo singer at the time and the guys who wrote the music for the song highered to sing on it. She showed up to the studio and they handed her the lyrics and said they didn't have a melody but would pay her $300 if she could come up with something. She started singing the melody that is on the final song. The song went on to become a hit and all she got was $300. It was definitely a music business lesson learned.

Fly Girl said...

Well you have certainly piled some classics into one post. All of these songs have some serious messages that belie the superficial eras they're from. Love is actually a complex process and takes knowing and loving yourself before you can get to that point with someone else.