Saturday, April 30, 2011

Video Review of 8 Reasons to Date a White Man 
(Apologies if you tried to watch the videos earlier. I accidentally set them as private instead of unlisted. They should be working now.) 

I(Tia) need to start this post by saying iMovie is the devil. Usually most things "I" are simple and easy. Not iMovie. It took me FOR-EV-ER just to edit out 27 seconds of the first video because Youtube does not play about that 15 minute time rule. Due to the difficulty, part one ends abruptly. But I'll let you know that you didn't miss anything. It was about 10 more seconds of me trying to figure out how to not give away too many identifiers about the guy that I was describing and then us realizing that we'd gone over 15 minutes.

So here are the videos and we are in our most, shall we say, organic forms. And as always, we'd love to hear what you think of the video and/or the topic at hand.

Here's the link to the original article.

Side note from Toya: I must say that in Part 2 at 7:31 until the end has got to be in the top 3 of Tia and Toya Shenanigans and Tomfoolery Moments of ALL TIME! Definitely a must see.

Friday, April 29, 2011

You love us...riiiiiiight????

Then you should tell your friends about us. I know that some of you have been reading since the beginning. You've laughed with us. You've cried with us. And I'm sure you've probably disagreed with us a few times. But you keep coming back for more don't you?

Well in my opinion anything that provokes that kind of emotion should be shared with your friends, families and co-workers. Better yet, share it with the world.

The 2011 Black Weblog awards are coming up and we would love for you guys to tell that world that BGLU is a force to be reckoned with. And we've got some great changes in the works. We sat down with a graphic designer yesterday and we hope to have a new logo in place as well as a new hosting home by the summer. In the interim we will continue to bring you posts on music, fashion, faith and whatever else suits us on a regular basis right here for your reading pleasure.

So head on over to the voting page for Black Weblogs Awards and nominate for the Blog to Watch. (It's toward the bottom of the page.)

Thanks in advance.
Beautiful - Tia

I sent the following text to Toya, "I would argue this to the death: Black females are the most beautiful things on this planet." I sent this to her as I was walking through Atlantic Station in downtown Atlanta. I passed this young girl who couldn't have been more than 17 years old and literally stopped in my tracks. She was GORGEOUS. Chocolate Skin, natural hair pulled up in a cute bun, and as my grandmother used to say, "Praise the Lord for Jesus" fully clothed in a non-revealing tank top and shorts of a respectable length. As I looked around I noticed that I was surrounded by a bevy of beautiful black women of every shape, size, color and hue. I began to marvel at how much beauty was around me.

As I continued to wander I watched as men of varying race walked proudly with many of my sistahs and how those men without companions tried, sometimes in vain, to gain the attention of some of the unattached beauties. One instance in particular caused me to pause. I observed a young man trying to get the attention of a group of passing girls. Now these young ladies were dressed in, shall we say, questionable attire. As I listened to the young man comment somewhat lewdly at the girls I began to feel that sadness that I sometimes feel when I'm in that situation. These girls not only seemed flattered by the talk but they appeared indifferent to the somewhat offensive things that were being said. It was almost as if they were compliments. Their responses were the polar opposite of what mine would have been. I take great offense when someone, in a misguided attempt to gain my attention, makes a comment about my anatomy or calls me a "pet" name that would normally be reserved for a significant other. I have never been comfortable with being admired by strangers for parts of my body that 50% of the people on the planet also have. And while I wanted to be mad at this young man, I realized that maybe that was the only way he knew how to talk to those girls.

The whole afternoon made me realize two things. First, we as women, regardless of race, size or economic standing need to realize our worth. And we need to know that we are not governed by a number on a scale, a shade of skin, a grade of hair or an amount in a bank account. And trust me, I know that is far easier said than done. I just read an article about Khloe Kardashian that not only made me see her in another light but made me add her to my prayer list. (Yes, I pray for celebrities. I get the feeling that some of them may not have anyone in their immediate circles praying for them and that is a lonely place in my eyes.) She talked about being taller and thicker than her 5' and 5'2" sisters. She's struggled with her weight trying to obtain this perceived idea of perfect that just wasn't reasonable for her 5'10" frame. She's battled insensitive comments from the media and even her friends and family. But she's finally starting to make piece with her body and I applaud her for it.

I can completely relate to her struggles. I'm her height and I'm thick. And the minute I stopped swimming competively my body seemed to betray me. I've battled comments from family and sometimes complete strangers about my weight. And while I'm active (ran an 11:54 mile today...working on a 10 minute mile and eventually a 5k) and consciously working on slimming down and getting more healthy, I still battle for my own peace of mind about my weight and how I perceive myself. And if I let what I see define me, I will be miserable. I think a lot of women spend so much wasted time agonizing over something that should be a non-issue. Every last one of us is beautiful. And if more of us realized that and then took the time to help others see that they too are beautiful, we would be so much better off and we would really understand the inherent beauty and worth that we all possess.

Second, we need men to be men. And we as women need to let them be men. I know that there are feminists who will probably hate me for this, but I think the "I am women, hear me roar" has skewed some things in this generation. I'm all for gender equality. But I think that we've been so busy doing it all for ourselves that men don't know where they fit in now. I recently heard Kelly Cutrone speak and she said something that really stuck with me. She said that we need to give men their masculinity back. Once we allow them to be men, it will again allow us to be women. (Aside: I highly recommend Kelly's book "If You Have to Cry, Go Outside." I don't agree with everything that she says, but overall the book is a fantastic read with some very judicious advice.)

I think a lot of men aren't respectful, worthy gentlemen because they don't know how to be and because we as women sometimes don't let them. Maybe that young man in Atlantic station didn't know that speaking to women is not a game of "rate your anatomy." Maybe he didn't have a man in his life to teach him how to be a man. To be a man you have to see a man.

As I get older I realize that it truly does take a village. And everyone has to play their part. We as women must not only support each other but we must support the men as well. And they need to do the same. We can't go around bashing ourselves internally, bashing other women behind their backs, and bashing men outright and expect everything to come up roses. We have to find the best in ourselves and the best in others. How can we expect to love others if we can't love ourselves? And since love wins above all else we have to give it to ourselves and extend to others. Otherwise, what's the point?

This is my FAVORITE song of the moment. I heard this the other day on the radio and when that chorus came in I screamed, "YES!!!" I did not care that my windows were down and I looked crazy. This song BLESSED me.


Everyone make sure to get your girls together and go out and support this film next weekend. Remember, opening weekend is VERY important for movies with black casts so we need to show up and show out! Well, some of us need not "show out" but you know what I mean. And to our white sistas, please don't be apprehensive. From what I understand, this is a romantic comedy with a great message. If I can go see a Sarah Jessica Parker film, surely you can go to the theaters with your girlfriends and "diversify a situation". Don't be scurred. Jumping the Broom hits theaters next Friday, May 6.
Flashback Friday (Because We Forgot Throwback Thursday): "Crazy" by Javier- Toya

Has anyone been watching The Voice on NBC ? I am crazy about it and not just because I get to look at Adam Levine for an hour. This week we got to see what's been up with Javier Colon who came out years back with this great song "Crazy". I am so happy for him and his opportunity for a strong comeback and a successful career.  Best to you Javier!
I know it's supposed to be about William and Kate today but...


this mean mugging little girl has made my whole day. Caption: "Yall are doin't too much. Where is my sippy cup AND WHO BROUGHT A VUVUZELA?!"- Toya

Thursday, April 28, 2011

And the children shall lead them - Tia
(Y'all know it's a slow day when I post 3 times in one day.)

I go back and forth on how I feel about kids. Some days I want an Angelina and Brad sized brood. Other days, for instance on days when I sleep for 14 hours, my attitude is, "Children...HA! No, thank you." 

But when I see the babies moving like this I can't WAIT to have a uterus full of baby friend so that it can come out and I can immediately put it in dance classes six seconds after it takes its first steps.

These children are DOING IT! My favorite is T-Money. He's the little thick one. I will vote for the ICONic Boyz like it's the presidential election. 

Oh and random aside; Y'all know I LOVE, heart, te amo and everything else JC Chasez. But he is straight up haterific on this show. It's as if NOTHING pleases him. And he is quick to throw a back-handed compliment. He needs a good black woman *coughmecough* in his life. He'd not only be so much happier but he would write the songs of his LIFE. I'm saying, holla at me Boo. 
Dear Joey Lawrence, SitchoA$$down - Tia

(Insert heavy sigh here) I'm so tired of the birther debate that I don't know what to do. While I know it's standard politics to point out the flaws of the current president, I've never in my entire voting life seen so much malice thrown at a Commander in Chief over such a non-issue. And I'm always stunned by the number of republicans who truly believe that President Obama wasn't born in this country. Seriously??? This is what we're debating?

But I wasn't really surprised that Donald Trump decided to weigh in on the president's birthplace. We as a country grow tired quickly of our buffoons and we needed someone fresh to replace the outdated windbag that Sarah Palin had become. Enter: The Donald. To me this man is a personality and not a serious candidate for president. So I'm happy to sit back and let him burn his own bridges (good luck getting ANYONE on Celebrity Apprentice next season) and further muddle the waters of the GOP candidicy for the 2012 elections. (I especially love how he's now saying that the president didn't have the grades to get into Harvard and he's implying that it may have been affirmative action. Racist much? Want to ensure that every eligible black voter comes out to the polls in 2012? Go ahead and call the president dumb. FOUR MORE YEARS! FOUR MORE YEARS!) So we'll just let Donald talk himself into a hole so that we can soon be done with him. 

While I believe that everyone is entitled to their opinion, I also believe that some people should keep their opinions to themselves. And I mean really, THIS GUY....THIS GUY?!?!?!?
Boy please. I need you go sit down somewhere and think about what you're saying. So you'd rather have someone who is a philanderer, with no political background and 3 major bankruptcies (that he openly admits he obtained to protect his own assets) than someone who is FAR MORE qualified and doing his best to clean up the mess that was left for him by the last administration? (It took us 8 years to get here son. It's not going to be cleaned up in 2 1/2 years.) Boy, Bye! I need to you, your skewed view of politics and your puzzling hair line (and shiny lips....what kind of gloss is that and where can I get it?) 


This concludes my political rant for the day...month. 

Saturday, April 23, 2011

New NKOTBSB/Jordan Knight - Tia

I'll be the first to admit that I'm all kinds of excited about going to the NKOTBSB show in June. And I'm still trying to finagle my way backstage. (I need to...ummm...speak with....Donnie.) I've been a New Kids fan since...forever. And while 'Nsync won the boy band race in my heart in the 90's, I still liked BSB and I'm excited to get a chance to see them. (I am, however, bummed that Kevin has opted out. But since he is SUPER grown I can't be mad at him.) 

And I loved Jordan's solo record from a few years back. "Separate Ways" still takes me ALL THE WAY IN! But this right here got a big "Meh" from me. I don't know why everyone feels the need to make dance music right now but I really hope that it passes soon. I like dance music as much as the next person but does everything need to sound like a Diplo record?

I'll let you decide for yourself. Maybe I'm just being a hatetress right about now. 

Friday, April 22, 2011

I'm 8 different kinds of ready - Tia

Okay so this video came on Vh1 Soul this morning. (VH1 Soul is my favorite station and the SOLE reason I have digital cable.)

If you've been reading this blog for any length of time you know that as soon as this video was over I went and cyber-stalked the guy singing the hook. His name is Joe Tann. He's 6' 4"!!! ("GLORY!!!" screamed the tall girl.) And I can't tell if I like his music or just his face. Usually I'm pretty clear on what I like but for some reason I can't seem to get past his prettiness.

That's awful, right? Maybe it's just that kind of day. This version of "Unthinkable" is not helping. I'm pretty sure he can sing. But all I can think about is how fine he is. 

Anyway, I'm going to revisit Mr. Tann at another point. You know, when I can be impartial. For now I'm just going to look at his face and listen to "Unthinkable" on repeat. If you're less shallow than I am and are interested in the music more than the face you can find out more about Joe here. And for your viewing pleasure: 

The "Good" of Good Friday- Toya

I have never heard this song "Hero" by Kirk Franklin and not been jacked up. Perfect for Good Friday. Someone mentioned that it was not by any means considered a "Good Friday" the day Christ was crucified. Sometimes you can't see the good that comes from difficult times until after the fact. I really love this song.

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Thursday Throwback: Justin Timberlake “I’m Lovin’ It”-Toya

I have a confession to make that I just had to confess to myself: I listen to this Justin Timberlake song when I’m having an "Ugh" day like today has been so far. Now if you’ve been reading this blog long enough, you know that I pretty much was through with Justin when he threw Janet under the wardrobe malfunction bus. And up until now I would never admit this but my “I’m Fed Up Today” playlist is really just a bunch of songs that happen to be by Justin Timberlake. Look “Take It From Here” will MINISTER if you let it! “Senorita”?! “Senorita I feel for you. You deal with things that you don't have to." I’M SAYIN’!

No hate today and by the way, I have one more confession: The way he looks in that flannel at 1:53? My soul says yes. Completely yes. These are my confessions.

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Follow Us on Twitter!

So did you know that we are on the Twitter (I loved when Betty White said that)? Yes we are and we love talking to you guys on there.  So if you are on Twitter and want to know about the latest post, want to share info with us as well as feedback on our blog, feel free to follow us at @BGLUBLOG.

Monday, April 18, 2011

Because it's late and I can - Tia
Jessie J - Who You Are

I have been a Jessie J fan for a while now. All it took was her singing "Mamma Knows Best" on the floor of her bedroom and I was hooked. Anyone who can sing with that much power whilst sitting on the floor AND make it look effortless gets my vote, no questions asked. 

Then last fall a friend of mine sent me the single"Who You Are" and it took everything in me not get on a plane and sit outside of Jessie's studio to wait for her album. 
I haven't looked forward to an album like I did with Who You Are in a long time. (Actually I was looking forward to Last Train to Paris. But that was when I thought Diddy was going to use the songs that I heard during Making His Band. However, since Diddy exists to disappoint, not one of the songs from the show made it to the album. Instead, he punked out and made a quasi-radio friendly, Thunderpuss remix, hip-hop/dance that's popular but in no way innovative album...Ask me how I really feel about Last Train to Paris.) 

So you know I was absolutely geeked when Who You Are hit my inbox last month. I completely broke work protocol and downloaded it to a flash drive so that I could listen to it immediately. I was expecting an album full of bangers and ballads by a truly great singer. 

The album is so....average. Don't get me wrong, there are some great songs on it. But most of the songs that I like are the songs that I already know. Aside from "Who You Are" and "Mamma Knows Best", there are a few stand out tracks. "Who's Laughing Now" is the quintessential theme song for anyone who's ever had to deal with bandwagon friends. And "I Need This" is just a flat out gorgeous song that manages to marry great vocals with a searing guitar riff without being overpowering. 

But while the album does a great job of showcasing Jessie's vocal prowess, there's not a lot about the writing that stands out. There is the overarching theme of being who you are and everyone is beautiful in their own way. And there are the obligatory songs about love and relationships. (I must admit "Abracadabra" is catchy as all get out.) But as a whole project the album seems scattered and almost feels unfinished. Even the sequencing seems wrong. (The live version of "Big White Room" should have come before "Who You Are." The tempo of the song is too slow to be in the middle of the album.) These aren't the songs that I would expect from someone who's written HITS for Miley Cyrus and Chris Brown. Based on the popularity of the youtube version of "Mamma" and the rabid fan base that almost instantly ensued, I expected the second coming of Beyonce. I wanted to push play and hear the best album of 2011. (That title is currently held by Adele's 21 in case you were wondering. "Turning Tables" will change your whole life.) Instead I was just significantly underwhelmed. 

The popularity of "Price Tag" (which TRULY escapes me) and her dynamic stage performances will likely ensure a sophomore album. The fans that came to her shows months before her album dropped and knew all of the words to every song will insist on a 2nd album. If that's the case I hope she grabs the Ryan Tedders, the Drakes, and the Jesse McCartneys of the industry and makes the album that a lot of us were expecting to hear this go round. (In case you're wondering why I included him, Jesse McCartney co-wrote "Bleeding Love". You remember that song that was EVERYWHERE for MONTHS????) We're still waiting for the album that shuns safe and goes BIG. Because you either go big or go home. 

But I'm still a HUGE Jessie J fan. You don't have to be a fan of someone's album to be a fan of them. Don't look at me like that. How many of y'all don't feel any kind of way about JC Chasez' solo project but LOVE him?.....Thank you. The girl can SANG. And she's fun to watch perform live. Never once have I felt my soul was in danger from watching a Jessie J video.  Unlike Gaga who makes you feel as if you need to kill the fattened calf and mark your doors, windows, and remote controls with the blood of the slain calf Old Testament style, just to watch her videos. Jessie's performances are fun and she doesn't seem to take herself too seriously. She was the girl in school who never lived up to her siblings expectations. She was the girl who wrote songs for other people, while singing her heart out on the bedroom floor. She's tall, beautiful and most importantly TALENTED. She's got the tools she needs to give Beyonce, "LADY" She-who-shall-not-be named, and all the rest of those B and C level broads in the industry a run for their money. So it would be unwise to completely write her off based solely on a 1st attempt solo project. Especially one that's not a complete mess. A bit of fine tuning, a few exceptionally written songs, and some all out bangers and we might be seeing Jessie J REALLY having a Party in the U.S.A. (Yeah, Jessie wrote that.)  

Sunday, April 17, 2011

My boyfriend in my mind - Tia

Does anyone remember what we did before the internet? I feel like the internet is so crucial when it comes to celebrity crushes. I remember Tiger Beat and Right On being the go-to magazines for photos. And back before they sold out, MTV would play the videos you needed to see to perpetuate your adolescent fantasies. But outside of your walls being plastered with posters of your favorite crush (and if you were so lucky, your pillow cases and bedspreads) there weren't too many other ways to see the object of your infatuation. 

So before I go on, I'd like to personally thank Al Gore for inventing the internet. (Google it if the reference makes no sense.) But seriously, I wish I could shake the hand of the person who decided that it should take little or no effort to cyberstalk the boyfriend in my mind. Without the internet I would have never found Scott. 
Seriously....Seriously?!?!? This dude is STUPID Fine. 

I recently saw him in "The Switch" and I had to pause the movie and immediately get on IMDB to find out who he was. I have to say there are some pictures of him that are just not edifying to my walk with the Lord. So I'll just keep it holy with the picture above. What y'all do in your own time is up to you. But I will tell you to STAY AWAY FROM MY BOYFRIEND!!!

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Thursday Throwback: "Crush" Zhane'- Toya my..dag...gone...SONG! I told someone once that if I had a walking theme song, like if I was in a sitcom and had theme music (who thinks like that), this would be it. Perfection in every way. Zhane' is so missed. And the cinemotography in this video? And the twins at the end? Don't get me started. Enjoy.

Monday, April 11, 2011

Hot Fun in the Summertime: Toya's Natural Hair Journey

Ok I know it's not quite summertime yet but here in Nashville we get about 2 weeks of spring before it's blazing hot. It was 91 degrees here this past weekend! Gorgeous weather however my hair was not that happy with the heat.

I realized that I have been putting a lot of creamy products in my hair that have been weighing my hair down and thus causing it to stay wet most of the day. I decided to go to the beauty supply store and find an old standby product that I completely forgot about: Emergency 911 Leave In Conditioner which is a liquid. I haven't heard any Curlies mention this product but it is the TRUTH. Instant curls. I do miss my trusty Cantu Leave In Conditioner though. I just simply don't have time to dry my hair in the morning (read:won't make time to get up earlier) so I had to come up with an even easier wash n' go routine. Here's what else I am using now:

Shea Moisture Deep Treatment Mask: This really did well on my hair this past weekend. it recommends leaving some in hair as a styling aid but my hair didn't really take well to that. I am going to continue to use their Curl Enhancing Smoothie though.

Paul Mitchell Super Sculpt: Love it and have for years. Good definition without the crunch and great shine.

Urban Therapy De-Frizz Conditioner (for co-wash): I went to FIVE Walgreen's before I found this. Every other store only had the styling aids which I haven't read good reviews about. This conditioner is so good though! Wait, why didn't I get two?

Uncle Funky's Daughter Curly Magic: While this product does pretty well on my hair, it's almost an after thought. Not sure that when I run out I will want to replenish it without trying something else to take its place. In the meantime, I paid almost $30 for this joint so I am using it up.

I talked about getting bored with accessories earlier and remembered that my friend Anne Marie got me this barrette for Christmas last year that our friend Melissa made:

I really wanted to rock something else besides flowers so this did the trick. Feathers will jazz up almost any outfit. Looking forward to getting more of these soon.  Pretty sure my hair is still wet in this pic. It's a bit bigger once it's dry and picked out. I no longer am tripping about putting chemicals in my hair to stretch out the curl. Thanks so much everyone for encouraging me not to do so. I would've never known how beautiful, healthy and curly that it truly is on its own! If you are contemplating going back to the Creamy Crack, let me offer these words from some great philosophers of our time, Wilson Phillips:

I know that there is pain but you hold on for one more day and
Break free from the chains

Don't you know things can change, things'll go your way
If you hold on (insert Mariah Carey finger here) for one more day
If you hold on

Stay strong.

Friday, April 8, 2011

In Today's Bullshishery News: 46 Percent of Mississippi Republicans Want Interracial Marriage Banned (Taken from

Show of hands if you read that headline and thought/yelled/said “What year are we in?!”

Show of hands if you got distracted by dude’s David Silver haircut in the photo and had a moment.

Are they serious?  I just…I mean. Look, it remains to be seen if my husband will be white, Puerto Rican, black, are all of the above (ooooh I would NOT hate that) but I am just in awe that the number was that high! I really was. What’s killing me is the word “illegal”; like you should go to jail for it. Like if they could vote to make interracial marriage illegal right now in 2011, they would try to make that happen. Unbelievable. To read what really went down check out the article here.

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Thursday Throwback- Amerie's "Why Don't We Fall in Love"

Oh spring...*sigh* Don't you just love spring? Warm weather, sun dresses, love in the air, snow cones and sun kissed boys in tank tops...

Sorry I dazed off. What was I writing about again?

Oh yeah this video. I love this song. I can't believe it's been nine years since this song came out! It is timeless. This song comes on and it is officially spring to me. Even though this video depicts summertime, it makes me think of springtime because here in Nashville we only have about three weeks of spring before it starts getting really hot.  I can't wait for barbecues, sitting outside at night, sun kissed boys in tank tops...

*flutter* *flutter*

My bad. Enjoy the video and happy Thursday!

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

It’s My Life- Toya
This song by No Doubt (which is a cover of the hit by Talk Talk) came on as I was typing this post and I thought the title was perfect. Then again so is the Bon Jovi song of the same name.

"It's my life, it's now or never
I aint gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive" - "It's My Life" Bon Jovi

At precisely 10:02 am this morning I had this revelation:

I am almost 40.



40? YEARS old??? And I don’t even want to talk about how close that is to 50. Don’t even say it! Don’t even think it! It’s one thing to get a message about your 20th high school reunion next year but to be close to 40 is a whole other monster. 40?!?!?!?

*Calming down*

No really, 40. Ok I have to stop saying that now.

Just last night I was telling someone that I want to do everything that I am remotely good at that I haven’t really tried yet. Everything. I don’t want to miss anything. I don’t want to look back and say “Man I should’ve tried that. Just for the experience.” Whether it’s TV, writing a book, planting my own cilantro, going semi-gluten free, travelling to a country by myself, whatever; I have to GO HARD for these next four years. Lord willing I will be able to. There is no time for “I oughta”. Let’s do it and let’s do it now. I only have one life and once it's over that's it! One chance. It needs to count.

I have a friend of mine that I’ve been working with on some event management things. I told Tia that I fool with her because she has been the only one able to get me a check. LOL! Now I don’t regret the many things I have done pro bono because they’ve afforded me some great networking opportunities but as of late I have had to really prioritize. There is a good chance that unless it is bringing me a check, I am not taking on anymore of anyone else’s projects. I just don’t have the time. However I do feel that if I was more financially secure it wouldn’t matter. I’d be in fashion, television, fighting for the homeless, ministry, concert production and of course growing my own cilantro. But here is the thing: I heard Terry McBride of Nettwerk say one time that you don’t do good out of abundance, you get the abundance out of good. So even though I can’t do all that I’d like to because a third of my day is spent being a receptionist and sitting, I can at least plant seeds…even though every day…I am just…sitting.

Yeah, these next 4 years need to count BIG.

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Toya’s Random Musings

1. Happy…I almost said Monday and it’s Tuesday. I am feeling a day behind for some reason. I am fasting for a week and Friday is pay day so feeling a day ahead is a good look. A friend of mine called a time  of prayer and fasting for the men in our lives and it was quite timely because I am really concerned about a good number of them. If I go on a liquid fast you KNOW it’s a CODE RED. Pray my strength please. The weather is warm and all I want to do is go to San Antonio Taco Company and then cap off my night with some Pinkberry.

2. I have been loving me some Nashville lately! It’s just been so fun in this town for the past few weeks. First of all my favorite band who makes the most perfect music, The Foreign Exchange (Phonte and Nicolay), showed up for a Red Bull Music Academy Session and winded up doing a show at the monthly old school hip hop set Boom Bap for FIVE BUCKS. Are you freaking kidding me?! This all happened in 48 hours.

Phonte called it the "No Set List" show and it was just that. Hilarious! We called out songs, he tried to remember the words and had us in stitches. Nevertheless it was such a fun night and they are both very nice guys.

Then on Sunday our boy Kevin Perryman and the ladies over at All Most Famous had a fashion show at The Citizen that set off Nashville’s first ever Fashion Week (which featured Kelly Cutrone, Betsey Johnson and Christian Siriano) to present Tidwell and Perryman’s When We Were Young line.

OK I don't know much about fashion but I love the concept of this line. It was great and I told Kevin that I need one of those blazers in “fun sized”.

Best. Weekend. Ever. Shame I don't have pictures. I am terrible about that.

What I really loved about this weekend is that it caused me to reflect on my past ten years in Nashville. Nashville has changed so much. As I walked through T&P’s fashion show, I kept stopping and talking to people that I have gotten to know since I moved here. My friends always tease me and say I know everybody and while I won’t say I know everybody, I will now admit after that weekend that I do know a lot of people. I don’t say that to be braggadocios because I don’t find knowing a lot of people anything to brag about. I’m blessed to have a very limited number of loyal and wonderful inner circle friends. My point is that I would’ve never known that I could love my life here in Nashville as I do right now. It was neat to reflect back on how all of the connections have been made. I am truly grateful.

Now watch me get an offer I can’t refuse and move to LA. I’m just saying. Stranger things have happened. Hey, I’m open.

3. I will not worry about my family I will not worry about my family I will not worry about my family I will not worry about my family I will not worry about my family I will not… One of the best things I have ever done is to release my loved ones to God and remember that those are His kids not mine. It’s difficult sometimes but it’s doable.

4. I can’t forgive Drake for messing up what could have been a really awesome girl empowering song, Nicki Minaj’s “Moment For Life”. Everything is not hot because Drake is on it. I can’t. Is there a version without him on it? I mean, Da Brat is out of jail now. Can we get a remix?

5. Speaking of rap, let me confess that I can’t help but like Lil’ ….OMG I can’t even type it. I have even shocked myself. *breathe* *sigh* Ok, I actually like Lil’..W-a-y…that dude on Young Money’s verse on Chris Brown’s “Look at Me Now”. I, I don’t know why but it kills as does his verse on “6 foot 7”. “Real G’s move in silence like lasagna”??? Come on! Even I can admit his flow on that is crazy.

6. And speaking of C-Breezy…

I am crazy about this song and video. I haven’t liked a thing from him since “Crawl”. This is more on my level.

7. I think the world would be a much better place if people would come to the conclusion that you don’t have to agree with someone to love them.

8. Every romantic fling I have ever had has happened in the spring/summer months. It’s difficult to not let my mind drift when I leave the house at night and it’s warm out. What’s not difficult is to remember how some of those things ended and then go about my business. *Shudders*

9. I just got a Facebook message about my 20th high school reunion this year. *blank stare* I need to invest in a really good eye cream in the very near future.

10. “Procrastination is a thief”. I heard Joyce Myer say this while I was getting ready for work today and tripping over laundry that I was supposed to put up on Sunday. She aint never lied. Unlearning procrastination is on the top of my list for the week. Am I the only one who thinks that life is more manageable after a good nap?

Saturday, April 2, 2011

Happy Birthday Marvin!- Toya

Ok it is kind of awkward to wish someone a happy birthday who is 1) no longer with us and 2) died so tragically. Nevertheless we are going to act like everything is kosher. I thank God that I was not born earlier because had I been an adult during the time of this performance I would've had at least four of Marvin Gaye's children. He was sooooo gorgeous! Just the baddest dude ever. Still missed.