Thursday, February 24, 2011

Relax...Don't Do It Part 2: I Almost Let Go- Toya

Ok I hate to say this but this weekend was going to be it: I was going to run a relaxer through my hair. Now I was still going to wear it curly but the shrinkage monster was working my last and final nerve. I think the hardest thing about this transition is remembering when I had big fabulous hair. I want it big and fabulous NOW. But getting it to be that way didn't happen overnight then and it won't happen overnight now.
The frustration came to a head when I left the house in a cute fedora with some freshly co-washed curls to meet someone for lunch. My hair looked butta!

But as the day progressed, I went from looking fly to looking like someone's Uncle Cletus who had a puff of hair on each side and had a hat on to keep others from knowing he was bald. I was so embarrassed. The product that I spent almost 30 bucks for because it stated it would elongate curls had defined my curls so well that it shrunk even more! I HATED it! I decided that unbeknownst to my friends and most importantly my hairstylist who I knew would be vehemently against it, I was going back to the creamy crack this weekend.

But the other day I asked my friend to take a pic of the back of my hair so I would could prove my case as to why I needed some chemical assistance to elongate my curls. After she took the picture she showed it to me and asked "Why does this look like a mannequin's head?"

No that is not a mannequin from Dudley's cosmetology school. That is the back of MY head! I couldn't believe how big those curls are. How could I kill all of those beautiful curls with the creamy crack? I owe it to my hair and to myself to continue on this journey of letting the natural me shine through. It's not going to be easy. Transition rarely is. But I really believe it's worth it.

Here are some of the products I've been rockin' with:
  • Shampoo and Conditioner: Super Skinny Daily Shampoo and Treatment (which I know doesn't help hair shrinkage but it definitely cuts down on frizz. I only use this every 2 weeks).
  • Co-wash with Urban Therapy's De-Frizz Conditioner (the truth!)
  • Cantu Leave In Conditioner (I've been using this for years while natural and relaxed)
  • Straight up good ol' fashioned EVOO (Extra Virgin Olive Oil)
  • Elasta QP Glaze with Olive Oil
  • Shea Moisture Curl and Hold Smoothie (cannot live without this)
  • Paul Mitchell Super Sculpt Liquid Gel
Oh and the almost $30 product I got was Uncle Funky's Daughter's Curl Magic. It's not a bad product at all. Sometimes I will work a little with the Paul Mitchel Super Sculpt. I just think it will work best for me when my hair is longer and I don't mind it shrinking a little. It defines like a mug! I'm not going to lie, the packaging suckered me in. How am I not going to want to open up my bathroom cabinet and see this?


Elaine said...

LOL! Straight DIED at the mannequin/Dudley comparison. Bwahahaha! I'm so glad your sticking with it Toya. I have to tell you,its straight WEIRD to be encouraging you in this because when I was stuck on the creamy crack you and Kami were my biggest inspirations!

melanie said...

i still want you to try this WEN stuff. i don't think it's for my hair, but i want to see how it works on your hair. it's not the magic i was looking for, but you should try it.

Lei said...

You are rockin' that do! I wish I could get off the stuff, but as I tell my family Armageddon is the only thing that will do it. Even then I am shaving my head. Hahaha! I think it comes from the fact that it has been almost 25 years since I have been natural.