Thursday, February 25, 2010


BGLU Approved- Denitia Odigie- by Toya

Just recently I organized a benefit show for Haiti of which I asked Denitia Odigie to be a part of.  During rehearsals I warned her "Denitia, I have a huge musical crush on you. Purely musical. So if you see me behind the bushes one day at the park, I mean you no harm so don't call the cops or anything." She chuckled and said "Oh I will just tell them 'That's my friend Toya. No worries'"

My friend Liz says that Denitia Odigie is that next level of coolness. I agree. She is that Lisa Bonet level of coolness you know you want to be if you would just let yourself be a little bit more carefree and artsy but the fact of the matter is that people that cool don't have to try; It oozes through with no effort at all. Denitia Odigie's music reminds me of the best carefree days. Good three day weekends with unexpectedly perfect weather days; even the heartbroken songs. Her full length album will be out soon but in the meantime, check her out on iTunes and her Myspace page.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Top 10 Jimmy Jam and Terry Lewis Songs - Tia

I know I say the same thing when I come back around these parts: I've been busy. I'll do better....yada yada yada. Y'all know the routine. I'll skip it and keep it moving.

I posted this on Facebook forever ago and completely forgot to post it here until I was listening to Color Me Badd's Choose for about the zillionth time. Anyway, Jimmy Jam and Terry Lewis are GENIUSES. Say what you need to say, those brothers are the truth. I feel like 10 isn't going to be enough. And considering that they have produced EVERYTHING this list could easily be a top 100. But for time purposes, let's keep it at 10.

In no particular order:
- If It Isn't Love - New Edition - I seriously know the choreography from the video. This is one of my all time favorites songs. It's one of those "put it on repeat for the day" favorites. Very few songs feel timeless like this one does.


- Human - Human League - I remember the day I found out that Jimmy Jam and Terry Lewis produced this song. I was in the car with Toya and looked her dead in her eye and screamed, "What?!?!?" But once I listened to it with that knowledge, it made all the sense in the world.


- Sunshine - Alexander O'Neal - This is so my jam. And I wasn't mad at Jigga for sampling it.


- If - Janet Jackson - I am not a dancer. No one who knows me can ever accuse me of being a dancer. While I will dance under the right circumstances (Cabana, with a couple of drinks, with the fam) normally I don't dance. So what you need to know is that I know and can still do all of the steps for the breakdown of this song.


- Choose - Color Me Badd - I honestly didn't know until about 10 minutes ago that they produced this. But I just kind of assumed they did. So I looked it up and sure enough....I have a maxi-single of this song. You know, back in the day before iTunes when they still made cd singles....

- Do What I Gotta Do - Ralph Tresvant - Okay, first of all, the very first time I heard this song, I thought Ralph sang, "I've been feeling ladylike." I can butcher a lyric like nobody's business.


- Give It To You - Jordan Knight - Please don't try to act like you didn't like this song. This was Jordan's come back.


- Tender Love - Force MDs - I couldn't have been any more than 7 when this song came out. But I would wait up listening to the quiet storm on V103 (before they turned into the V103 that we now have) until it came on. If you don't like this song, you don't like music.
Force MD's - Tender love
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- Making Love In The Rain - Herb Albert - I try not to listen to this song too often. It makes me...Anyway, I'm not married. But trust....this is getting brought out at the appropriate time.


- Fishnet - Morris Day - YOOOOOOOOOOO...this song right here...Fishnet/Black panty hose/Thick legs/Show through the holes. I was WAY TOO YOUNG to be singing this song but I sang it HARD!!


Feel free to add your favorites in the comments section. I know there are SEVERAL that I missed.

BGLU Approved: Liquideep "Fairytale"- by Toya




My soul says yes.


I have been hip to Ziyon's music for some time now as his underground gem "Chocolate Star" is on my "Songs I Can Put on Repeat and Leave on for Hours" list. So to see him and his partner DJ Ryzor who make up the South African duo Liquideep put out a video is a treat for sure. And can we please give the Lord a hand praise for the girl being fully clothed?! This almost made me forget that "Birthday Sex" topped the charts last year. Almost.


I adore these lyrics and I love the overall vibe of this song so much that I can't stop singing it. Side note: Ziyon's smile is darn near crippling. He flashes those dimples even a little bit and I swear one of my vertebrae breaks.


For more on Liquideep, check out their Myspace page at www.myspace.com/liquideep.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

We Gotta Get Out of This Place- Toya



Text to Tia: "I am now the Girl Who Cried 'Move'"

This used to be Tia's nickname. She talked about moving for a while before she actually did it. Last year I SWORE I was moving to either NYC or LA. I just felt transition coming and knew that I needed to wrap my mind around leaving so I braced myself. In bracing myself, I felt like I was putting my life on hold (because I was) and decided to just make moves here in Nashville until a door opened somewhere else. I stopped being anxious about where I was going to move because it was nerve wrecking. New York or LA, New York or LA, New York or LA. I don't know if it's The Monthlies or what but today I want to see the world.

I will be 36 this year, Lord willing. 3-6. I could type that number all day long and it still wouldn't make any sense. So what am I waiting on? Does it bother anybody else that there is a whole world out there that they haven't seen? I don't doubt that whatever I do will be music related but I am not so sure if it is always going to be here. I love living here, don't get me wrong but ideally, if I could spend a few weeks somewhere else and then come back? I am totally open to that.

And maybe that is what this air of transition has been all about; being open to the possibilities of relocating. I thought this was it. I really did. But now even this country seems too small. There is so much music I haven't heard, so many places I haven't seen... We are able to track what countries our readers are logging in from and I often wonder how it would be to live where some of you are. I have always wanted to go to London, Tokyo, South Africa... I would leave today on my lunch break if I could.

I don't remember the last time I took a risk or stepped out on a dream. That is probably because I stopped dreaming a long time ago. It bothers me a little that I find it hard to dream anymore. It seems my dreams always revolve around making things happen for others. That's not a bad thing really until you start to despise the ones you are making things happen for. I don't, I'm just saying. I seem to be the mama bird that pushes everyone out the nest to fly. I think I need a swift kick myself.

I used to be afraid to move around at my age because I wanted to be married but I have such a new love for being by myself now that marriage isn't even a priority. I think this is partially because my love life has been Groundhog's Day. Guy meets girl. Guy thinks girl is awesome. Guy loves hanging out with girl but guy wants to date all of girl's friends. I don't know how these guys find me but I wish someone would take my name off of their mailing list. This is not bitterness talking. This is boredom.

*Yawn*

Realistically, even if a great guy professed his undying love for me right now with a dozen gerber daisies and a skywriting airplane, it wouldn't change the fact that I still want to go. And no, I am not building that wall around my heart again. I am just interested in taking it to new places.

Coldplay's Viva La Vida starts playing at work.

*face hits keyboard*

Thursday, February 11, 2010

I Probably Won't Talk About This Again So...-Toya

John Mayer has been in my prayers for a few weeks now. A few weeks ago I went to the taping of Keith Urban and John Mayer's Crossroads for CMT. As a friend of mine and I stood out back and waited for or friend from Urban's camp,security made their way through to clear the exit for John Mayer. As soon as he walked past us I had a flashback of when Tia and I met him at Tower Records. He was plain, kinda frat boy looking. But when I got a good glimpse of him a few weeks back I thought "Wow! He looks really...Hollywood?" I then started to feel some compassion well up inside as I pondered something: someone who grows up just wanting to play his guitar and sing his songs does not necessarily know what they are signing up for when it comes to being famous. I am sure that Jennifer Aniston did not become an actress thinking that she was signing up for hour long specials about her love life. If you are even the slightest bit unstable while playing in your high school talent show, chances are when you have more money which equals more access to things and fame which tends to equal more scrutiny, things can get pretty hard to deal with.

Tonight was the 4th time I have seen him play. Funny enough, I didn't even know I was going tonight. Minutes after reading the hoopla someone literally asked me if I was going and then handed me two tickets. I am so glad that I went. He played quite a few oldies and as he went into "No Such Thing" I teared up. That's what got him started on a ride that he did not anticipate going the way it has. I already knew that "Gravity" was going to be emotional. In the middle of the song, he confessed what I had suspected: it got too much for him and it took hurting the ones he loved to show him that things have gotten out of control.

I made up my mind years ago not to read John Mayer interviews because his music means to much to me. I still haven't read the entire Playboy interview and I won't after hearing his apology at his show tonight. To me it is a done deal. I pray that there are people in his life to truly show him where The Light is. That they will surround him with the love of Jesus and as he figures out who John Mayer is, along the way he will find out who God has created him to be. Tonight was a great reminder for me of how amazing and greatly needed grace is. I am grateful for Jesus in my life and his example and command to forgive. I hope John Mayer experiences that and learns to forgive himself.

I realize that compassion and forgiveness aren't always popular. People want to be angry and call him a racist and whatever. Some may even feel like I am defending him and condoning his actions and that is far from the truth. I just really feel for a hurting person.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Always gonna be a favorite - Tia

I'm trying to decide if I'm going to weigh in on the verbal ridiculousness that came out of John Mayer's mouth....until I make up my mind, please enjoy some "classic" Robin Thicke. This song is not going to ever get kicked off of my favorite songs list.

This Week in New Music: Sade's "Soldier of Love"

Sade has spent this past week or two on her promotional tour for her new record "Soldier of Love" doing the unthinkable: Performing fully clothed. Yes, it's true, it's true. Groundbreaking, huh?

Amazing how she can come back from a ten year hiatus without a wardrobe malfunction, having to collaborate with the hottest producer or having to put the latest overexposed rapper on any of her music. I think any artists can learn a good deal from Sade in that she knows who she is, she's comfortable with herself (still rocking the same slicked back ponytail and red lipstick)and stays in her lane. By staying in that lane she has sold over 50 million records. Sex sells but only for a short amount of time. If it costs you longevity, is it really worth it?

Soldier of Love is in stores now. Support good music.- Toya

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Did he say he wanted to build a fort???!!!!! YES!!!!! Sign me UP!- Toya

This boo right here, Spencer Butt, has made me giggle all morning. This made my day. Origami Valentine's Day cards? My soul says yes.

I love love. As the line in Brown Sugar goes "It's the possibility of a thang." And although the timeline history of my life would suggest that I am The Statue of Liberty for the world's most emotionally unavailable men, I still believe in love finding me. Yes, LOVE finding ME because I am not looking.

There is a song that I am diggin right now by an artist named Ayah called "He Don't Want It". The lyrics escape me right now but basically it reminds me of a theory that I have. I think some women get too excited when a guy seems to be into them. I don't think the issue a lot of times is "Is he into you?" as much as it is "Is he into you enough to love you right and do something about it?" It's the difference between being interested and being committed. A guy can be interested all day long but interest requires very little, if any, responsibility. And so at the mere hint of interest, a lot of women compromise what they know they deserve in hope that this could be "It".

Please.

When the desire to be in a relationship trumps the love of yourself and your own personal well being you want a relationship TOO MUCH. We shouldn't want anything that much. Anything that makes you feel like you have to work and work to show a man that you are enough is not worth a woman's self esteem. I understand feeling like men need help but...really? Do they? They are natural pursuers. They go after what they want and if they aren't going after you in the way you deserve then is it worth it?

And so we are afraid to be alone. There are worse things than being alone. I am not going to speak for everyone but my personal preference is this: Let me be alone then. If I can't have love the way that I want it and the way I know I deserve it then I really and finally am okay being alone even if it is for the rest of my life. I refuse to go through that turmoil of trying to make someone see something. I'm awesome! You are too! If someone can't see that enough to go for it but keeps sniffing around like a dog then stop trying to prove yourself. You are awesome...AS IS.

I love me. I love love, I want love. In that order.

Friday, February 5, 2010

Eye Candy Friday or Why I watch Grey's Anatomy - Tia

I have been a faithful watcher of Grey's since about day one. I don't remember how I came upon it, but I do know that I have seen every episode and own all available DVDs. I suffered through the dead Denny hallucinations as well as the 2 minutes of George in season 5. (I was a fan of George.) I'm hooked and will stay that way.

People have said that the show fell off last season and that it's not what it used to be. They say the writing has suffered, the plots are thin. People are entitled to their opinions. And some of them may very well be correct. But I would just like to say that I will be watching Grey's Anatomy until they take it off the air. And I don't care if the only dialog that is spoken is the recitation of the alphabet. As long as Shonda Rhimes (God bless that woman) sees fit to parade men like this across my screen every week, she will have my viewership until the very end.

Dear Heavenly Father,
You make beautiful and wonderful things. I praise you because your worthy and Lord your creations are GOOD.
Love,
Your awed and thankful daughter




Enjoy the rest of your day. And you're welcome.

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Would we steer you wrong? - TiaEvery year around this time, I find myself humming the song It's The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year. I'm sure you're scratching your head and wondering why? February is typically cold and dreary. You're coming off the high from Christmas and New Year's. And for most of us, there isn't another major holiday (translation: a day off of work) until May.

The reason that I am typically happy is because it's tax season. Now I know some of you are still scratching your head wondering why I would be happy about that. Well for me, tax season always means REFUND. I am meticulous when it comes to keeping receipts, noting donations and anything else that will mean that I can get my money back from the thieves at the IRS. I NEEEEEED my money. Especially around this time of the year. Between Christmas and every man in my family having a birthday in January, come February 1, I'm blowing the cobwebs off of my checkbook and trying to figure out how to make Ramen noodle casserole. AND this year thanks to Prez. Bush leaving us with the check, the sinking economy left me unemployed for the last 3 1/2 months of 2009.

So I'm always happy to see that w-2 hit my mailbox because I know that in NO time at all I will have my money back. And I have to say, most to that is due in part to Turbotax. I have used them for the last 5 or so years. They are AMAZING. They make my anal receipt keeping easy to file. They have an audit finder that flags anything that may bring the wrath of the IRS down on me. And e-file is SO easy.

I know this sounds like an endorsement for the product...Frankly, that's exactly what it is. Turbotax makes it easy and it's practically idiot proof. Trust me, I was studying to be certified to do taxes. It is neither fun, nor simple to do your taxes on your own. Turbotax takes the headache out of it.

Here's the link to their website. And whether your return is simple, mildly complicated or a down right pain in the butt like mine is, you will find what you need. And (gasp!) you can even talk to a real live person if you so need or desire.

Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to write out a few checks and stick them on my bulletin board so that when I get my refund in 2 weeks, I can just drop them in the mail and tell quite of few of the companies I do business with that I will no longer be using their services. "Here is your money. I bid you good day...I SAID GOOD DAY!!!"

Oh and in case you're wondering...we don't receive any sort of compensation from Turbotax. we just both really like their product.

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Music - Tia

Not too long ago, BGLU hipped you to up-and-coming artist Coury Palermo. His new EP theminorfall hits iTunes on March 9th. But all the cool kids know that you can listen to tracks from the EP and some bonus songs from his album of covers, boxsideoutV.I, on SoundCloud. My current favorite "grip me up in the corner and have me feeling some kind of way" track is Sunday Black. I'll let you listen to that in your own time. But check out Meant to Be below.

meant to be by coury palermo

Random Question of the day - Tia

Do any of you faithful readers watch Lost?

Monday, February 1, 2010


Hot Mess Championships: The 2010 Grammy Awards by Toya

So much pressure! LOL! I have to be honest. I don't know if I have that much to say. This year's Grammys seemed, well, a little lackluster. I will say that the Grammys are usually a little bit classier than the other award shows; the Oscars of the music industry if you will. But this is America so you know there were some hot mess occurrences. Prior to the show I was already disgusted to hear that "Blame It" won a Grammy but then again so did "Baby Got Back" during the 90’s. I tried to keep my expectations low and thank God. Let's discuss, shall we?

1. Lady Gaga: Holy Ziggy Stardust, Batman! This is the first Lady Gaga performance that I have ever seen where I didn’t feel like getting in the shower with my clothes on and start trembling like that man from “The Crying Game”. I usually feel a little…affected. But this time she didn’t give me the creeps! Heaven forbid I have either been turned over to a reprobate mind (where my ”chuuch” folks at?) or she wasn’t that scary. For some reason I kept thinking about that scene with Evilene from The Wiz and wondering if she would make an appearance. Evilene didn’t show up but Lady Gaga did later appear as The Good Witch…on ice.

2. Elton John and Lady Gaga: Not nearly as awkward as the “Stan” duet he did with Eminem but he gets the “C’mon Son” award from me this year. I understand him wanting to commit and be in full costume to keep up with the theme and all but (all together now) C’MON SON! He looked like someone’s grandpa that got drug out to go trick or treating for Halloween. No sir.

3. Steve Colbert’s shout out to Susan Boyle: Someone said to me recently that there is truth in all humor. I wish there would have been a Come to Jesus moment for the industry when he said that the woman that saved the music industry last year was 48 and wears sensible shoes. Lord help.

4. I wonder what Kanye West and Chris Brown are doing at the house tonight…

5. Wow! Song of the Year already? “Single Ladies” deserved it. This will be sung at every wedding reception from now until Jesus comes back.  Am I the only one that didn’t know that Katt Williams was a co-writer? Yes, I saw The Dream’s jacket. Why won’t I go in on it? Because it was a nightmare. Moving on…

6. Didn’t Mariah Carey put out an album last year?  Huh.

7.  Green Day: Fuming Ok look, I realize what my problem lately with Green Day is. If I admit that they are old then I have to admit that I am old too and I am not ready to do that. With that being said, I really couldn’t take them and the cast of Rent performing together. For real? I can’t take Green Day doing these Soft Rock Easy Listening hits. I am too nostalgic and old school for this kind of Green Day.

8.  Taylor Swift’s first win of the night: "I feel like I am standing here accepting an impossible dream". JACKED. ME. UP. Love her. Don’t care.

9. Bouncy’s up…Whoa! Is she about to sing “They Don’t Really Care About US”? The soldiers were REALLY serious. Is this a part of the Michael Jackson tribute? I am so confused. She is going HARD! I feel like I should be paying for all this! Does she have a Paypal account? I didn’t see the Alanis cover coming and I’m not mad at it. And the band: Ferocious. Good luck following that.

10.  Pink’s performance: Well if there was anyone who could follow Beyonce’s performance it was Pink. I was a little confused by her swaddling clothes at first and even more confused when I looked up at the screen and she suddenly was barely wearing any but her performance was amazing. Now I know we have seen her do her acrobatic thing before but this David Blaine type stuff with water was next level. However, I know sistas were mad in the audience. I know I would be. I don’t get my hair all done up for it to get rained on because you want to play Cirque De Soleil. Regardless, she sang, she sang well, and she sang upside down. Pink is a beast. Close the books.

11. Oooh CBS is on a schedule. They are wrappin’ yall up QUICK tonight!

12. The Black Eyed Peas: Ok, this may be the beginning of my guilty pleasure confessions of the evening. This “Imma Be” song makes me want to pull up outside of a club, wait for it to come on, get the valet to keep it running while I go in for five minutes to drop it and then leave a soon as it goes off. I went kinda crazy the first time I heard this. However, “I Got a Feeling” for the 1326th time? If someone gave me a choice between never hearing this song ever again and raising my FICA score to perfection I would choose the former. I can’t take it anymore.

13.  Is Joe Jonas even old enough for me to talk about yet? I’ll wait.

14. Kings of Leon won!!!! Hendersonville stand up! Or is it Knoxville? Regardless, I love me some KOL.

And then, the bane of my existence: Buffoonish tomfoolery.

Does somebody want to explain to me why they got one of the most famous ex-substance abuse addicts, Robert Downey Jr., to introduce “Blame It on the Alcohol”? That is NOT cute. Jaime Foxx needs to grow up and make some grown man music. Now look, I have a few guilty pleasure songs, I will admit that. But I have a general rule: 8 times out of 10 if a song contains lyrics where a man is saying things to a woman that I would spray him with mace over, I am not having it. You can blame feeling on my “butt what” on the alcohol if you want to. You will also be blaming my size 9-½ shoe on why you are no longer able to have children. I am done and no I don’t want to talk about T-Pain!

15. Is it me or does Ke$ha look like a broke down Debbie Gibson minus some crimps in her hair? Anyone?

16.  Zac Brown Band is lettin' yall have it! They are really good. I usually get scared when this kind of music comes on. I hear a "HEE" & I DO NOT stick around for the "HAW"

17. Taylor Swift’s performance: Now look. I am not delusional. I LOVE TAYLOR SWIFT but someone on her label may need to start administering some tough love because her vocals tonight were so off. She is a fantastic writer and would probably actually be a good singer if they gave her some time to get better. I was so happy for her that Stevie Nicks was singing one of her songs though. Was that Adam Lambert on guitar? Hey a check is a check.

18.  The Michael Jackson tribute: I was so happy that we made it out of the snow to get the 3-D glasses from Target today! I prepared myself to not cry and was actually grateful that they didn’t show a lot of Michael Jackson pictures. Just his voice choked me up. Confession: I tried to pinch Smokey Robinson when he came on the screen in HDTV 3-D. Does that make me a cougar in reverse? I prefer the term “puma” anyway.

And I can barely talk about the children right now. It is still fresh. OK I will say that little Prince jacked me up and I predict Paris Jackson has been called to preach. Mark my words.

19. Umm, I would’ve appreciated Jon Bon Jovi in 3-D as well. Just sayin’. CBS could have kept that on.

20.  I don't care that Mos Def mumbles and looks like Richie Cunningham tonight! That is still my boo!!!!

21.  I had no idea why they let Solange’s child up there with his Uncle Jay-Z when they accepted the award for “Run This Town” and apparently neither did he.

22. So I kinda think that Kelly Clarkson should be onstage getting a grammy too because Halo and Already Gone are (for the last time) the SAME DAGGONE SONG!!!!

23. One of my friends said that when she dies she wants to come back as LL Cool J’s chapstick. LOL!!!! That is exactly how I feel about Maxwell’s microphone stand.

24. Maxwell’s up now and killing me softly with “Pretty Wings”. Time to get your body roll on ladies! I am so delighted to see Robert Flack on stage but I am almost sure that she can’t hear herself.

25. These RIP’s are slaying me right now. Would the mention of Michael Jackson be overkill? I guess so. I was sad but glad to see them mention Pop Winans though.

26. I am so confused by Quentin Tarantino right now .  I don’t even know what he is saying.

27. Drake, Lil’ Wayne. Eminem performance: The Grammy’s should not have had them on. Period. If you have to do that much censoring, why bother? It was annoying and it took away from the band particularly Travis Barker on the drums. Thumbs way down.

28. What no “Pants on the Ground”?

29. Taylor Swift wins Album of the Year. Sometimes good girls finish last and it’s a good thing. Again, love Taylor, don’t care and there you have it, the  2010’s Grammy awards. Discuss…