Tuesday, September 21, 2010

BGLU Question of the Day - Tia

I was reading Essence the other and I was slightly taken aback by a survey that they'd conducted amongst black men regarding their feelings toward women who wear weaves.  Most of the respondents did not care if a woman's hair was real or not. It was the comments from the men who did care that kind of threw me for a loop. 

One of the comments that really bothered me was that "women who wear weaves are ashamed of the hair that God gave them." Now, I just flat out don't like blanket statements like that. While that may be the case for some women, it's not fair to categorize all women who wear weaves that way.

I personally will rock a weave without an ounce of shame or remorse. And it's not because I'm ashamed of my hair. It's because I'm LAZY. My natural hair is just that...NATURAL. I don't have a relaxer. I'm just not a fan of them for my hair. But I also am not a fan of my hair when it's curly. Unlike Toya, I don't have perfect curls. (Side note: I am ALL KINDS OF JEALOUS of Toya's hair. It grows out of her head in thick PERFECTLY SYMMETRICAL curls. It's GORGEOUS. People buy the hair that grows out of her head...moving on) When my hair is wet it is curly in most spots, bone straight in a patch in the back and wavy in the front. It is a hassle to try to put enough product/oil/mousse/gel whatever in it to get it be presentable whilst curly. Frankly, I prefer my hair straight. But that in and of itself is ALSO a hassle. First I must blow it dry, then I press, and finally I flatiron. After all of that my hair LOOKS as if it is relaxed....until reality humidity sets in. Once that moisture hits my hair it's back to curly, wavy, straight schizophrenic hair.

Now, while I will do all of that if I have to, what you need to know about me is that when it comes right down to it I'm lazy and I just don't care all that much. I don't want to waste a bunch of time doing my hair and make-up Most of the time my hair is in a ponytail and the only make-up I'm wearing is mascara. So a weave is my best friend. All I have to do when I get up is unwrap it and I'm out the door. There is nothing self loathing about it. I DEFINITELY don't think I'm better than anyone because I'm wearing the follicles of some little Indian girl. And if anyone asks, I would gladly tell them that this isn't my hair. So the idea that I have fake hair and thus must hate myself is preposterous to me.

I will say that I think it's horrible that the media continues to perpetuate the light-skinned "good hair" myth. And I do think that the constant barrage of light girls with "mixed" hair does lasting damage to our little girls who are not of that same hue. But I also think that some of the women in black culture are more concerned about their impact than the length of their tracks. Yes, they may rock a 18" weave, but they're also feeding kids in Haiti, fighting to help cure cancer and aids and running some of the wealthiest empires in America. 

So I want to get your take on it. What's your view on wigs, weaves and extensions? Are they doing more damage than good to the black community and the image of the "perfect" black woman? Or are they merely accessories like shoes and jewelry to be changed at the whim of the wearer? Hit us up in the comments and share your thoughts.


Alexis said...

I am completely with you. I have natural hair and it is a complete hassle to deal with. I have that ultra think super curly 4b type of hair and I don't have the patience to deal with it sometimes. (In fact, I've been telling myself that I was gonna press it for the past two days. Still not there yet lol) As much as I love my fro, I love rocking a sew-in or some kinky twists even more. That doesn't make me any less proud of my hair or my culture and I defy someone to prove me otherwise.

Niki said...

I went natural last year and love it, but I do like to change up my look now & then to prevent "hair boredom". Last week, I rocked a "Good Girl Gone Bad Rihanna" bob wig and for a party, I had on a long wavy wig with bangs. People who treat how someone wears their hair as some kind of statement on that person's value are lame, period.

Christina said...

I agree with you. Weaves, wigs, extensions are like accessories. They are a way to change your look. I too am LAZY when it comes to doing my hair. Plus when I workout I sweat and I don't feel like blowdrying my hair everyday. So I wear a ponytail a lot but have also worn a wig or a partial wig with my hair blended in.