Monday, September 27, 2010

And This is Why I Love You Tube: Lenny Kravitz & Prince "American Woman"- Toya

True story: One night I woke up from falling asleep on the couch. I saw the two of them walking down the aisle, thought I was dreaming and went back to sleep. Don't ask me why a year later I decided to look this up but I am so glad that I found it because Mr. Nelson does not like his business up on You Tube. Watch it fast before he snatches it up.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

It's BGLU's First Video Blog!!!!!


So we finally did it. We made a video blog! We got the idea from a friend of  mine named Abbie who hipped us to Donnie Wahlberg of New Kids on the Block’s R&B slow jam internet show “DDub’s Back Rub”. She played a little bit for me and because of my initial reaction, she made me promise that I would record Tia and I listening to an episode together for the first time. Taping this was a blast and we hope you get some giggles out of it. Now keep in mind that I (Toya) am not all that computer savvy so we can’t edit this video down from its 15 minutes. Also excuse my hair because I just came from the gym. I really wish I could edit the end when one of my roommates started banging on the door (long story).

Now we mention this in the video but I want to make this clear: we are not hating on Donnie Wahlberg. We are New Kids fans forever. But if you have been reading our blog long enough you know that no one is exempt from getting clowned when they do things that are clown worthy. And I’m not going to lie: although we clowned it, I probably will be listening to the next Back Rub episode when it comes out. The slow jams are great once you get pass…well, you’ll just have to watch our video and see what I mean.

To listen to DDub’s Back Rub online, go to on Friday nights at 8 pm Pacific. Consider our video your warning though.We are looking to do more video blogs and would love to get your comments and ideas.

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

BGLU Question of the Day - Tia

I was reading Essence the other and I was slightly taken aback by a survey that they'd conducted amongst black men regarding their feelings toward women who wear weaves.  Most of the respondents did not care if a woman's hair was real or not. It was the comments from the men who did care that kind of threw me for a loop. 

One of the comments that really bothered me was that "women who wear weaves are ashamed of the hair that God gave them." Now, I just flat out don't like blanket statements like that. While that may be the case for some women, it's not fair to categorize all women who wear weaves that way.

I personally will rock a weave without an ounce of shame or remorse. And it's not because I'm ashamed of my hair. It's because I'm LAZY. My natural hair is just that...NATURAL. I don't have a relaxer. I'm just not a fan of them for my hair. But I also am not a fan of my hair when it's curly. Unlike Toya, I don't have perfect curls. (Side note: I am ALL KINDS OF JEALOUS of Toya's hair. It grows out of her head in thick PERFECTLY SYMMETRICAL curls. It's GORGEOUS. People buy the hair that grows out of her head...moving on) When my hair is wet it is curly in most spots, bone straight in a patch in the back and wavy in the front. It is a hassle to try to put enough product/oil/mousse/gel whatever in it to get it be presentable whilst curly. Frankly, I prefer my hair straight. But that in and of itself is ALSO a hassle. First I must blow it dry, then I press, and finally I flatiron. After all of that my hair LOOKS as if it is relaxed....until reality humidity sets in. Once that moisture hits my hair it's back to curly, wavy, straight schizophrenic hair.

Now, while I will do all of that if I have to, what you need to know about me is that when it comes right down to it I'm lazy and I just don't care all that much. I don't want to waste a bunch of time doing my hair and make-up Most of the time my hair is in a ponytail and the only make-up I'm wearing is mascara. So a weave is my best friend. All I have to do when I get up is unwrap it and I'm out the door. There is nothing self loathing about it. I DEFINITELY don't think I'm better than anyone because I'm wearing the follicles of some little Indian girl. And if anyone asks, I would gladly tell them that this isn't my hair. So the idea that I have fake hair and thus must hate myself is preposterous to me.

I will say that I think it's horrible that the media continues to perpetuate the light-skinned "good hair" myth. And I do think that the constant barrage of light girls with "mixed" hair does lasting damage to our little girls who are not of that same hue. But I also think that some of the women in black culture are more concerned about their impact than the length of their tracks. Yes, they may rock a 18" weave, but they're also feeding kids in Haiti, fighting to help cure cancer and aids and running some of the wealthiest empires in America. 

So I want to get your take on it. What's your view on wigs, weaves and extensions? Are they doing more damage than good to the black community and the image of the "perfect" black woman? Or are they merely accessories like shoes and jewelry to be changed at the whim of the wearer? Hit us up in the comments and share your thoughts.
Because sometimes you need a laugh in the afternoon - Tia

Someone sent this to me on Facebook and I have watched it no less than 5 times. This is the funniest thing I've seen all day. The first grocery store one is my favorite. 

The panda kicked over his cart...waited...then kicked his groceries for good measure....LOLOLOLOL!!!

Why are gully Pandas my new favorite thing?

Monday, September 20, 2010*Passes Out*-Toya

On this episode of BGLU, Toya goes to Home Depot with a copy of this month's Ebony and a peculiar question:

"Yes, I was wondering how many of these I would need to wallpaper a small 5x8 bathroom?"

He's back and I couldn't be happier.

Sunday, September 19, 2010


I know some of y'all looked at the video with a side eye and thought, "JoJo? That little Leave(Get Out) girl?" 

Yes...HER. JoJo is back on the scene after a much too long hiatus. Her last album, The High Road, was released back in 2006 and charted well with the help of the platinum selling single Too Little, Too Late. But then it was like she fell off the face of the earth. She would randomly pop up in television and movie appearances and I would find myself wondering why she wasn't singing. 

I was briefly hopeful when a cover of Drake's Houstatlantavegas popped up on the interwebs.

But then rumors of label disputes dashed any remaining hopes that I may have had for hearing an album any time soon. So you can imagine my surprise and delight when I heard that there was a completely free mixtape dropping this month. After a little digging I found it at And I must say that not only did JoJo grow up but she had the nerve to get grimey on us.

Apparently getting into a label dispute, breaking up with your boyfriend and life in general will make you write a banging album. If you're one of those people who couldn't appreciate JoJo's vocals because of the material she was singing about, then you should definitely give the Can't Take That Away From Me album a listen. But I'm going to tell you right now, DO NOT call your ex and leave "Boy Without a Heart" on his voicemail. That's just tacky and you don't want to be that girl. (But TRUST I thought about doing it....) But feel free to do the gospel double clap to it. My favorite track of the moment is When Does It Go Away with Travis Garland. It is so No Air it's not funny. But overall, the whole album shows a more mature artist who has definitely learned a thing or two about life, love and the music industry since the last time we saw her.

I'm glad to see JoJo is back and free to do the kind of music that she likes. Maybe I'm just getting old, but I don't want gimmicks with my music. (Looking at you Gaga) I just want you to sing. (Still looking at you can sing....but I forget because I'm too distracted by the animal carcasses you wear.) I don't need a lot of extra. I just want well produced tracks and good vocals. Apparently that is just too much to ask these days. But at least there are a few people out there who still just want to be musicians. Those are the people I'll support. (Looking at you JoJo.)

Friday, September 17, 2010

Hot Mess Championships- 2010 MTV VMA's

*Miss Celie Voice* Its late, it's short, but it's here! By God it's here! My 2010 VMA awards recap. I almost didn’t do this for this year because overall I was kinda “meh” about the VMA’s. They weren’t great but they weren’t really a hot mess either. Nevertheless, here is my take:

VMA Pre-Show:
  • I need to see Snooki and Lil' Kim next to each other because I am not fully convinced they aren't the same person. And did they just call her a fashion icon?! But…*sigh*
  • How is it that they hyped up Nicki Minaj all throughout the pre-show as being so important to hip hop and this performance could not be further from hip hop? What is this? The thing is, I don’t exactly hate it (don’t love it either) but honestly, it makes me miss Missy Elliot. Where is SHE?
  • Jen just said “Well that was just uncomfortable & weird, and Will I Am looked like a plastic Jermaine Jackson.” I…I can’t. I cannot! LOL!
  • I can't get over that we have starving people in the US but we can make a Jackass 3D.

Aaaaaaand here come the Hot Mess Championships 2010…

  • This AMAZING set almost explains why Katy Perry’s outfit, while not terrible, looks like she just came from performing in the Ice Capades. Is this year’s VMA’s going to be an “On Ice” production? I mean, it’s MTV. Anything is possible.

  • Your girl Ke$ha looks like she is wearing something from the Mad Max Beyond the Thunderdome collection.

  • Whenever Eminem’s performances remind me of him as B Rabbit in 8 Mile, I immediately have to repent. Please keep me in your prayers and remember that we all fall short of the glory.

  • Am I right in thinking that Rihanna has on Madonna's "Like a Virgin" outfit from the VMA's in the 80's on purpose? *Shrug* I think she looks adorable.

  • I have finally stopped calling Drake “Wheelchair Jimmy” because of his run on Degrassi but Jared Leto, not so much. He is still Jordan Catalano from My So Called Life, I still want him to perform “Red” and his starter mullet is giving us the fever right now.

  • Ok, WHY does Justin Bieber's performance seem to be more hip hop than Nicki Minaj's?! What is happening in the world?

  • People are going in on Twitter about them saying Kim Kardaschian is a fashion icon but no one says anything about them saying that about SNOOKI?!

  • I’ve been underwhelmed with Usher as of late so I am glad to say that his performance was great! I don’t understand this “Europop” direction but hey, if this is what is helping you stay relevant *shrug*. We’ve seen Janet’s career. No diss. Just saying.
  • Florence and the Machine: Church Mother Florence (as I like to call her) just got on stage and prophesied over the VMA’s that “the dog days are over”. I am not mad at her at all! It’s almost like she just redeemed this whole thing, much like how I feel during the gospel portion of the BET Awards. I receive!
  • Taylor Swift: That set is the business! "32 is still growing up now." "Who you are is not what you did". Write Taylor!!! Forget about vocals (this time); to publicly forgive and show grace to someone who just a year ago publicly embarrassed you is next level humility. I loved her performance.
  • It is about time. I am FINALLY wowed by a Drake performance!
  • While typing up this review I realize that it’s been almost a week since Bruno Mars came on stage at the VMA’s and Christine yelled "Stevie B!” I’m still not breathing correctly. Foolish!
  • Hayley from Paramore is currently my worship leader thanks to their song “The Only Exception”. Yes indeed! Gets me every time.
  • These mini performance before the commercial breaks kill me. It’s like they take an artist that is desperately on the come up and tell them to get REALLY hyped for about a minute and a half like it’s their big break or something. This is the part of the show where they reminded us that Robyn is back and she went hard! On my Twitter timeline were a bunch of people asking who this Pink wannabe is. Please do not sleep on Robyn. She was out before Pink.
  • Linkin Park huh? *shrug* Well at least it's not Limp Bizkit. *shudders*.
  • Cher: *blank stare* I am almost positive that the idea to wear her outfit from the “If I Could Turn Back Time” video was a better idea on paper. Hey I can’t hate. I can’t wear my clothes from that year so” A” for effort!
  • For someone that is not performing (on stage anyway) Lady Gaga is getting an awful lot of attention during this award show. I won’t give her much more then.
  • Kanye’s closing performance: I freaking love Kanye West. I just do. I will say that I didn't realize certain words were acceptable on TV now. I haven’t fully processed his performance as of yet but I will say this: his and Taylor’s performances remind me much of when Rihanna and Whitney Houston on the American Music Awards last year: both have been through a lot but only one seems to be handling their circumstances in a way that seems to be healthy. We’ll see.

  • I would take Chelsea Handler over Russell Brandt as a VMA host any day of the week. I think she did a good job overall.
Alright, that’s my take. Whatcha got?

Thursday, September 9, 2010

I will take whatever Adam is giving - Tia

Dear Adam, 
I heard you went and got a model chick. I mean, I wish you the best...I guess. If that's what you like. But if you change your mind I'm here for you. 

Moving on...Give a Little More gets two enthusiastic thumbs up from me. As much as I tried I really just couldn't get into Misery. (The video was cute though.) But this right here got my vote immediately. It sounds a bit retro without being antiquated. Your falsetto is killing as it usually does. And I love the organic feel of the video. Big budget is not always the way to go.

Anyway, good luck with the new album. And if you need someone to help you write the best songs of your career, holla at a sistah. 

Warmest Regards, 

BGLU Approved: Kings of Leon - Radioactive

I'm not going to front. I (Tia) got on board with KOL on the last album. I had never heard of them before that. Once I got hip, I went back and listened to their older albums. And while I liked a lot of what I heard, Only by the Night still topped the list as my favorite. 

But after hearing Radioactive I'm beginning to wonder if Come Around Sundown (out October 19) is about to knock Only by the Night off of its pedestal. I actually got chills when the kid's choir came in at the chorus. I absolutely love that the sound of this song is so different from the radio singles from Night yet is still retains that KOL essence. Caleb Followill is, as usual, singing his heart out. And without sacrificing integrity like so many artists feel they have to do to stay relevant, KOL has created a radio ready single that is sure to please old fans and make some new converts. 

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Things I learned from Nehemiah - Tia

The church I visited last Sunday referenced several scriptures from Nehemiah. Now, Nehemiah is one of those books that I sometimes forget exists. Someone is always referencing Job. And it seems like every third child at church is named Jeremiah. Ezekiel had that cool wheel thing. Better than Ezra was a band. And if you’ve ever even driven by a church then you’ve heard the name Isaiah. But Nehemiah is not a name I recall hearing as much.  And that really is a pity because Nehemiah was on POINT.

While I was reading through the first few chapters of Nehemiah this morning, I realized that there is a lot that I can learn from him. So here are a few things I picked up this morning.

Nehemiah actually cared about people
Nehemiah 1:4 (after asking about the Jews who had returned to Jerusalem and hearing that neither they nor the city were not doing well) When I heard this, I sat down and wept. In fact, for days I mourned, fasted and prayed to the God of Heaven.
How many of us claim to be followers of Christ but couldn’t care less about the plight of those around us? (Excuse me while I stop typing long enough to raise my hand.) We become so wrapped up  in self, status and everything else that the other people in our world become nothing more than decorations and fixtures in our world of one. But Nehemiah was moved to tears by the situation that the Jews and Jerusalem were in.

Chapter 2 even goes on to say that he was still mourning several months later. I’m sure each and every one of us was hurt and saddened for the people of the Gulf after Hurricane Katrina, the entire island of Haiti after that horrendous earthquake and the people who lost loved ones on 9/11. But as horrible as those events were, can you honestly say that you’ve given them anything more than a passing thought, if that, since they’ve happened? Has your soul been moved to tears and your mind  moved to prayer? (You can’t see me but I’m shaking my head “no.”)

Nehemiah was a man of action IN SPITE of his fear
Nehemiah 2:2 – So the king asked me, “Why are you looking so sad? You don’t look sick to me. You must be deeply troubled.” Then I was terrified.

Even though he was the cup-bearer and thus had the king’s ear, Nehemiah was still fearful of making a request of him.  Frankly, Nehemiah could have easily looked the other way and let the matter pass him by. And who could blame him really? Aside from the occasional danger of tasting the king’s wine to see if it was poisoned, Nehemiah had a pretty cushy gig. If the king’s heart was not inclined to toward him, Nehemiah’s job and possibly life could have been over.  But he moved beyond his fear, prayed and made his request. And the minute the king granted his request Nehemiah was out the door. He didn’t delegate. He didn’t wait. He went to it.

It’s not enough to be moved by something. You actually have to MOVE.  And there are times when you will have to move through your fear. You will have to move out of your comfortable existence. You may even have to (gasp) step out in faith.
 I truly believe that there are times that God simply wants us to ask. And I think there are times when he just wants us to move. But whether it’s ask and be still or move in faith, his provisions will follow.

Nehemiah 2:8 – And the king granted these requests, because the gracious hand of God was on me.
Nehemiah not only received permission to go to Jerusalem to rebuild but he had hand written letters from the king to the rulers of the other provinces to allow him safe passage and supplies. (Nehemiah 2:7, 8) So basically he could go where he wanted and take what he needed. And if anyone objected they could deal with the army that was with him. (Nehemiah 2:9)

Nehemiah let the haters hate
Nehemiah 2:19-20 – But when Sanballat, Tobiah and Geshem the Arab heard of our plan, they scoffed contemptuously. “What are you doing? Are you rebelling against the king?” they asked. I replied, “The God of heaven will help us succeed. We, his servants, will start rebuilding this wall.”

If you are doing anything worthwhile, HATERS ARE GONNA HATE!! That’s all they know how to do. Even as the haters continued to oppose the rebuilding, Nehemiah kept in moving. And when the haters stepped outside their minds and attempted to attack the builders, Nehemiah prayed and then Lord had something for them. The workers continued building with one hand and held their weapons in the other. That is all kinds of gully.

Just because you’ve set about to do something doesn’t mean that it’s going to come easy. God may have very well told you to get up and go, but that doesn’t mean the journey will be a piece of cake. There will always be haters. There will always be someone who will look at you and ask, “Whatcha doin’ that for?” As Kanye put it (and I’ve cleaned this up a bit): “There will always be haters. That’s the way it is. Hater dudes marry hater women and have hater kids.” But letting the difficulty of the task or the opposition of others deter you from crossing that finish line and completing your task is not an option. You may have to work to complete your goal and fight to protect it at the same time.  But as you pray, as your fight and as you move, God will continue to bless you and provide what you need in that time and season.

I’m not really sure how to end this as I’m only 4 chapters into the book. But I do know I will be taking a closer look at my life. I will no longer just be about Tia. God’s created a great big world for me to go into. And I just need to move beyond self and fear and be about it. 
BGLU Approved: Ron Isley and Lauryn Hill "Close to You"

I just heard this on my lunch break and I am SO glad because I need to pull it together and fast. Grab some tissues. This song is GORGEOUS! This is beyond Lauryn Hill in top form. We haven't heard her like this before.

Word has it that this is off Ron Isley's upcoming 2010 release. If this doesn't win a Grammy I am moving to Mars.

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

New Music: Willow Smith's "Whip My Hair"- Toya

Tia and I have this running joke that we are going to come up with a group comprised of Willow Smith, Blanket Jackson and Jayden Smith and call it The New Young Money. We were going to include Paris Jackson but I am convinced she has been called to preach. Mark my words. I see a Joyce Meyer type ministry in her future.

Now if this faux "supergroup" would have happened it may have been the quickest break up since Saved by the Bell's  Zack Attack because Willow Smith has now come out with her first single called "Whip My Hair". Are we surprised? Not really. Her mom Jada had her band Wicked Wisdom and we all know that her dad is The Fresh Prince so the apple doesn't fall too far. I am totally with Clutch Magazine when they said that not since Raven Symone has any girl held it down for the tween market.

What do you all think?

Sunday, September 5, 2010

BGLU News: Our Side Pieces

Tia and I both now have side blogs with some friends of ours that you may enjoy. Tia and our friend Brandon have some of the latest in music reviews over at their site Music Looks Like Yes. You know she always comes with it on what you need to be listening to before everyone else catches on. My friend Raffeal and I have taken our love for cupcakes to a whole other level with our cupcake review blog, Cupcakes Are Not a Game. As self proclaimed "Cupcake Gangstas" we share where you can find the best cupcakes in Nashville and NYC.

Also, we are working on our first BGLU Youtube video. As soon as we can figure some things out, we'll have it up here. Should be hilarious. Happy Labor Day!
Can We Talk: Monistat Anti-Chafing Gel as a Makeup Primer- Toya

So I have been stepping my makeup game a little bit and realized that since I have oily skin, it may be best to get down with a primer. I've tried MAC's primer and my skin laughs at it. Seriously, it's like I didn't even make an effort. Thank God for their recycling program where you can get a free lipstick, lip gloss, or eyeshadow if you turn in 6 of their containers. Anyway, like a lot of us I am on a strict budget. I wanted to try and find the bst for my buck and came across this new phenomenon of using Monistat Anti-Chafing Gel (which is for your lady nether regions) as a primer! For reals?! From what I have seen it is all the rage. I was curious to see if any of our readers have used it. All of the reviews have been favorable however I did come across this Youtube video that I wanted to hip you all too that warns those who have sensitive skin. 

My skin is pretty resilient so on my next trip to Wal-Mart I will be purchasing the self-checkout aisle...with some sunglasses on...I'm just sayin'.

Friday, September 3, 2010

You Done Good Girl!: Gabi Gregg
If you don't already know, Gabi Gregg is the business. The Detroit native's blog for "fun sized girls" as I like to call us, Young, Fat and Fabulous, has been a God send for any woman who is in love with fashion and doesn't fit into the industry's "perfect"mold (Actually, the blog really is for anyone that loves to look fly, quite honestly). She recently beat out over 5,000 contestants to become MTV's first TJ (Twitter Jockey) and get this: won a $100,000 contract to boot! Just goes to show where working your passion, stepping outside the box and being happy with who you are can get you. Gabi's already off to a great start filling us in on what's going on with this year's VMA's, exclusive interviews, and of course MTV fashion. Follow her at @MTVTJ on Twitter and be sure to visit her blog on You done good girl!

Will the Church of BGLU please join hands and join us in a rendition of "He Has Done Great Things"? Hal-le-luuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu-jah!!!!!!! *Cue the organ*

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Happy 90210 Day!!! -Toya

I wouldn't be me if I didn't bring this up...

And who knew that Beverly Hills 90210 (we don't even claim whatever that new mess is on CW now) was full of wisdom? Today on Twitter, Nashville’s Single Woman Examiner Mandy Hale tweeted some nuggets of wisdom from the cast. If you are on Twitter, be sure to follow her at @TheSingleWoman.
  1. Every time the phone rings, bet someone it isn't me. You'll be right every time. ~KellyTaylor
  2. I Choose Me. ~Kelly Taylor
  3. Flirting is a universal language. ~BrendaWalsh
  4. If u gotta do the wrong thing to get what u want, it's probably not worth having. ~DonnaMartin
  5. Just go to him. Tell him everything you’ve ever wanted to tell him. Even if it’s just goodbye. ~KellyTaylor
  6. If you play with dirt, you get dirty. ~DavidSilver
  7. I'm either going to be #1 in your life or I'm not going to be in your life. ~KellyTaylor