Wednesday, January 20, 2010


I got the following email today that literally almost killed me because I had to hold in fits and screams of laughter in an office full of people. I JUST got this job and thus can not afford to lose it because I'm screaming and howling with laughter. I was just sitting there in my borrowed cube at Duke waiting on IT to come and fix my computer. I open up my email and, no lie, I bite down on my own hand to keep from SCREAMING with laughter...seriously, this may be the funniest thing I have seen all year. Anne Marie, henceforth, I will be waiting until after business hours to read any email from you.

Subject: Remember that time
Mariah started eating again and Nick Cannon was Farnsworth Bentley?

Honestly, what am I supposed to do with that? His face coupled with Anne Marie's wit destroyed me for the day....And scene....

Monday, January 18, 2010

Happy Martin Luther King Jr. Day!!!

Happy MLK Day! I encourage everyone to read "Strength to Love" by MLK. That book really changed how I saw tolerance for everyone. It indeed takes a lot of strength to love and fight for those who seem to fight against you. I am indeed working today and while I could be salty about it, if it wasn't for MLK would I really have this job in the south? I doubt it.

This scripture reminds me of him:
Hebrews 11:13 All these people were still living by faith when they died. They did not receive the things promised; they only saw them and welcomed them from a distance. And they admitted that they were aliens and strangers on earth.

Here's to living by faith while dreaming for a better day...-Toya

Sunday, January 17, 2010


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I find that I get really distracted these days by what's going on in the moment. Toya once said that I'm easily tracked as in one-track mind. I think it was a nice way of saying that I'm a bit absent-minded. But it's true. I sometimes tend to focus on what's happening in the moment and forget about other things that are going on. That said, I have been hopelessly slack on posting. I will attempt to do better in the coming days. So here goes...

- I got a job. I got a great job. I work for DUKE!!! Anyone who knows anything about me knows that I have been a fan of Duke basketball since I was about 11. So this job is so perfect. I still don't know if I can get tickets to the games (I hear you have to practically knock down someone's grandmother to get seats) but it's a job nonetheless. It is a contract position. The contract is a couple of years long. So it's a good fit for the moment.

I sat down and did my budget and things will be looking up pretty soon here. And since I spent the last few months living like a vagabond, I now know what I can and can't live off of. So if I play my cards right and if my math is correct I should be out of credit card debt and have my car paid off by the time my lease is up. So PRAISE GOD!!!! for everything that has happened in the last few months.

- NYC....Yeah....I was ill prepared for the animal that is NYC. The cold was a shock to my system. I walked outside one day and just didn't know what to do because of the cold. I literally just stood there for a moment and cursed the air because it was so cold. I also was not prepared for how much of a hassle it is to get small things done in a city where everything is supposed to be convenient. By that I mean, I'm so accustomed to being within 5 miles of 4 Krogers, 2 Walmarts, several banks, a car wash and every gas station known to man. I was not prepared to have to work to find a gas station and lactose free milk and I have given up on getting my car washed with any sort of regular frequency. (That last part is a shame because the birds do not seem to care how cold it is and camp out in the trees on my block if for no other reason than so that they crap on all of the cars on the street.) It's still a shock to my system and my wallet to have to pay $7 for lactose free milk. I can understand housing being more expensive but the cost of food makes no sense to me. There's no justification. It's not like the milk has to travel farther to get here. It's insulting. But I's NEEEEEW I mean...I guess.

- Home has taken on new meaning for me. I got to go to Nashville for New Years. It was the first time that I'd been there since the summer. Thanks to a couple of parties I got to see a lot of my friends and I realized that I really missed those people. I have spent the last 6 years in an industry that does not allow for a lot of time to build relationships. (Please reference Up In the Air. That's basically been my life for the last few years.) And as I've gotten older I've gotten crotchety and don't really want to take the time to meet a lot of new people. But then I fight loneliness on an almost daily basis, so go figure. The thing is, I like the friends that I have. And while I'm not completely averse to meeting new people, it's nice to meet people that come with a referral, if you will.

Anyway, after being there I realized that Nashville really is home for me. I spent every summer of my childhood there with my father and then I lived there up until the adventures of the last few years happened. And for all it's faults and 1 degree of separation and boys in skinny jeans it's home. And if I'm being honest, I want to go home.

- New Years was...eye opening. After making out with a friend of a friend of mine on New Years (yes...that happened. And don't ask who it was. Nashville is small and we have a lot of readers there and I would prefer to not have someone walk up to dude in Crema and ask him about the incident) I realized that I really want a serious relationship and I really want to be married. Random hook-ups with random guys are nice for about 3 minutes and then it's old. So many of my friends are married, having babies, buying homes and I feel like I've missed a step some how. Not that marriage and kids makes you an adult. But there's something about sharing your life with another person that I really want to do.

I was watching Away We Go the other night (great movie by the way) and there is a scene when Maya Rudolph asks, "Are we f*ckups?" referring to she and her boyfriend's station in life. I completely understood where she was coming from with that. For all intents and purposes, I feel like I have nothing to show for my life of adulthood that I have been in for some time now. And while I'm not saying that a relationship would validate my "adultness" I think it would on some level cushion the blow of the haphazard life I seem to live.....I don't know...I just think it would be nice to do life with someone.....

That's all I've got for now. I'll holla.

Friday, January 15, 2010

Who Already Has My Vote...All of Them

This is Toya, your favorite music snob. You may remember Jermaine Sellers from the first season of BET's Sunday Best. I am absolutely over the moon for this cutie. Real talk? This is the bar that every American Idol audition should be set. If you can't sing this good or better, you don't even need to audition. Seriously, now that Teddy Pendergrass (and Gerald Levert and Luther Vandross and Barry White, etc.) are gone, if labels don't start signing real singers quick, soul music as we know it is going to disappear. I can't wait to vote for him.

JImmy Fallon is Trying to Kill Me

This mess right here? Why does he sound JUST like Neil Young?! I can't...

Thursday, January 14, 2010

We Already Miss You Teddy

*Sigh* What are we going to do about our music? Seriously. Everytime a great artist like this dies, I think a bit of what's left of Soul music dies too. Teddy was one of a kind and we were so blessed to have him. His music will live on forever and ever. Please keep his family in your prayers today.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

She's Back: Sade - Soldier Of Love (Official Music Video)

I mean, I'm glad I just started getting into Pilates cause she looks incredible! Oh and look! She's wearing clothes. That Sade. Always next level...- Toya

What the....??? How Did We Miss This???

We've only been waiting for Matt Morris' debut CD since we started this blog seven years ago so how we failed to announce the release of his debut release "When Everything Breaks Open" is beyond me. As usual, I will blame it on the recession and keep it moving.

So yes, it is out and you already know that it's fiya so be sure to support ya boy. Those who were lucky enough to cop his out of print "Unspoken" CD (I own two cause I can't afford to lose one of those. It's golden.) will recognize "Eternity", the last track on the CD. To listen to the CD in its entirety go to AOL's Full CD Listening Party page.
New Angel Taylor Video- "Like You Do"

Great news! BGLU fave Angel Taylor is this month's VH1"s You Oughta Know artist! Congratulations Angel! Her debut album "Love Travels" is in stores now.

Monday, January 11, 2010

"Heartbreak Warfare" from Upcoming "VH1 Storytellers" featuring John Mayer

VH1 TV Shows Music Videos Celebrity Photos News & Gossip

Why do I feel the need to send my tithe to Columbia Records after I see John Mayer perform on television? Probably because I darn near have a Holy Ghost revival in my room whenever he does "Gravity". Say what you need to say (bad pun) John's music will minister.

The Right Reverend will be on the only show remotely right on VH1, Storytellers, on Thursday, January 28th. Get your hankies out.
- Toya

My Favorite Person I Have Never Met, Hands Down- Toya

This right here makes me lean over with laughter every single time. He is serious! Happy Monday :O)

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Elliott Yamin is RI-DI-CU-LOUS

Thank you Monick for trying to get me fired. I need my job and I am up here squirming in my chair. Elliott is a sangin somebody! For those of you in the Atlanta area, he will be at Smith's Olde Bar in Atlanta on January 16th. For those of us that aren't, watch him join Bobby Caldwell in singing the classic "What You Won't Do For Love".

I'm Wit It!!!!! Our Family Wedding-Trailer

First of all, Lance Gross is THE BUSINESS. I would watch a 2 hour movie of him sitting in front of a wall of drying paint. And America Ferrera has been representing well for quite some time now. I think this may be a good one.- Toya

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

*Blank Stare*- Official Music Video for Flavor Flav - I'll Never Let You Go

1:52. Jesus had to raise me from the dead at 1:52.

To quote my brother, This ain't even the Death of Autotune... this is Autotune thrown into the Lake of Fire with Satan, Death, and Hades!!!! Don’t get me wrong, I believe Flav is sincere. SO sincere, bless his heart. However, the following people are not sincere, have set him up to be clowned and therefore need their behinds whooped: the record label, the song’s producer, the songwriter, the video director, the best boy grip, catering, transportation, the state of California and everyone else involved in this mess. Oh and of course, T-Pain but he has had a behind whoopin’ coming for some time now, hasn’t he?

Happy 2010!!!!!!

Tia and I (Toya) spent New Year's Eve (and weekend) together here in Nashville. Right after the ball dropped, I went into one of the bedrooms in the house we were partying in, sat on the bed and exhaled over and over and over again like I just ran four city blocks. I looked back on the past year and just though "Whew! What a ride! Thank you God that is over with." 2009 was absolutely crazy. I don't care what happens this year, I am just glad that 2009 is over.

Do I have New Year's resolutions? Not really. I have a short term memory (a selective one I guess) so the best I can do is stop going through cycles and that's day by day. I feel like this is the year of the great wide open. I have big expectations on top of no expectations at all. I seriously don't know what I want this year to bring specifically outside of simple direction.

Deuteronomy 30 is my bible verse for the year. It's great. It basically says that God has a lot for us and wants to do a lot for us but obedience to Him and maintaining those blessings demands a lot from us. It seems impossible for me sometimes to think that I can do the right thing the majority of the time when it comes to the things I most struggle with but this is my favorite part right here:

11 Now what I am commanding you today is not too difficult for you or beyond your reach. 12 It is not up in heaven, so that you have to ask, "Who will ascend into heaven to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?" 13 Nor is it beyond the sea, so that you have to ask, "Who will cross the sea to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?" 14 No, the word is very near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart so you may obey it.

15 See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction. 16 For I command you today to love the LORD your God, to walk in his ways, and to keep his commands, decrees and laws; then you will live and increase, and the LORD your God will bless you in the land you are entering to possess.

Loving God for me has to come before obedience. A lot of that lies in the belief that He loves me. I learned last year that in some ways I went through the motions when it came to my faith. I needed to read this much of the bible, and pray this way, and worship a certain way and I got frustrated. God wants honesty. I'd hate to be married to someone and every time we got together their words seemed so calculated. I'd hate if something was wrong in our relationship and I hurt them if they never told me and kept saying "But you're the best though!" I would want to know the truth. The better my relationship with God becomes the more I want to trust in what He says and follow it. It's not easy though.

Every year Tia and I have a slogan for the new year. This year is full with so much uncertainty that I don't think we can come up with a catchy one. I have heard Win in 2010. I have heard Get Men in 2010. Hey, I am not opposed to either! LOL! While I may not have a slogan, I do have a belief: this year is going to be like none other. What are you all expecting for 2010?