Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Headturner - Tia

The computer system that I use when I'm on the road is down for the second day in a row. The server is being rebooted AGAIN in the middle of the day. Now granted, the server is in the UK so it's the end of the day for them. But for the REST OF US, it's prime work time and I want to know whose dumb idea it was to reboot at 10 am. *exhale* Now that I've got that little rant out, on to the post.

Last night Toya and I had coffee with one of our really close guy friends (who I used to have a crush on but that's neither here nor there. Nor is the fact that he used to have a crush on me just not at the same time. It's all moot. Or "moo" as Joey said on Friends. Oh and should I mention that he kinda reminds me of Chris Brown?) We somehow got to talking about relationships. One of the things he mentioned is that guys have feelings but they sometimes don't know how to deal with them. And sometimes those feelings keep them from acting. Basically, sometimes guys allow themselves to be candyasses and not act on their feelings for a girl. It makes sense though. There have been a number of times when a guy has come up to me months or even years down the road and said, "You know, I really used to like you." Now, since I'm oblivious and don't assume that every guy that I know likes me, I usually miss the signs that a guy is crushing on me. However, part of me feels like I should be able to be as oblivious as I want to be. I shouldn't have to decode your subtle signs and innuendos. In my mind you should be a man, grow a couple and step to me.

Something else my Chris Brown friend said was that it would seem that Toya and I have our lives together and because of that we just don't seem all that interested in having a man. What the hell is that?!?!?! So because I have my act together I want to be alone? What kind of ass backwards logic is that? I seriously don't get it. So if I'm to subscribe to that train of thought, a guy does not want to holla at a girl who has it going on. But I know for a FACT that a guy doesn't want to holla at a girl who is a mess and is desperate to be with a man at any costs. So what is it that guys want? Do they want a project? A girl who is wreck who they can fix and who will ultimately worship them for riding in on a white horse and saving her from her wrecked existence?

Apparently the answer to that question is yes. But it's only yes for the candyassess of the world. My friend stated that his current girlfriend (who by the way, is the love of his life) put it out there and flat out asked what he was feeling and told him how she was feeling. She made it plain: stop playing with my emotions and be with me or leave me alone. And then she pulled the biggest pimp move I've ever heard of, she left the country and ended all communication with him. That little reality check shook him out of his state of candyassness and made him realize that this girl was unfuxwitable and if he lost her it would be the biggest mistake of his life. He realized that this was a bad chick. A chick that he wanted to have in his corner. And he needed to do whatever it took to make sure that when she set foot back on US soil she was going to be his ride or die chick.

For the next 5 months while she was in...wherever she was, he busted his ass trying to win her. He even flew to her mama's house to talk to her. That's what's up. He realized that losing this girl was not an option and pursuing her was the only thing that he could do. That right there, is a man.

After we all parted company I realized that how he did it is how it's supposed to be. A true man will not be intimidated by a true woman. He will realize that the girl who has her stuff together is a girl who will compliment him. A man wants a ride or die chick on his team. So from this point on I refuse to be bummed out about the candyasses who are too afraid to talk to me because "You seem like you have your stuff together and that's intimidating." I'm a bad broad. And while I may not have it all together (everyone has their messes) I am a chick who is worth pursuing. As Travis from Gym Class Heroes said, "On a scale of 1 to awesome, I'm the sh*t." And every last woman who reads this post must learn to see herself that way. You are not intimidating to a REAL man. In the immortal words of Robin Thicke, "Babygirl you're the sh*t. That make you my equivalent." Let the candyassess roll on. They're paving the way for a real man to step to you.

Headturner - Joss Stone
Work It
Girls we've gotta work it like we do
Turn a head or two
Cause we're worth it
So I ain't gonna waste my time waiting on you
Gotta make your move
You had my number for
Two or three days or more
If you're a real man you can't ignore mmm, mmm this
Sometimes it's physical
But I want supernatural
I don't have wings but I'm ready to fall
I deserve it all

Headturner yeah
Soulburner
If you're gonna watch me walk
Then watch me walk
Headturner yeah
Are you a slow learner
Come and take my hand
Cause I'll find another man
If you're gonna watch me walk
Then watch me walk

You gotta earn it
Nothing in life is free
You gotta bring your love to me
Baby (baby)
Baby (baby)
Emotional, ooh I got
Sexual, ohh I got
Spiritual, God knows I got it
What you want, baby I got it

Headturner, yeah
Soulburner
If you're gonna watch me walk
Then watch me walk
Headturner, yeah
Are you a slow learner
Come and take my hand
Cause I'll find another man
If you're gonna watch me walk
Then watch me walk

No one can love you
Like I'd love you
No one can do the things
That I would do to you
I'd do something about it
If I were you
Or feel my heels as I'm walking over you

Headturner, yeah
Soulburner
If you're gonna watch me walk
Then watch me walk
Headturner, yeah
Are you a slow learner
Come and take my hand
Cause I'll find another man

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