Wordz of Wisdom-Toya
Wordz of Wisdom was a song off of 3rd Bass'' classic The Cactus Album. I swore I was going to marry MC Serch, a thick white boy with a high top fade that could dance. I mean, I really did not see how that was NOT going to happen. Man I miss Yo! MTV Raps!
My mother, hands down, is the wisest woman I know. She gives the best advice ever. I have often recycled the advice given to me by mom to other women and they come off thinking that I am just so wise. She's the greatest.
I recently sent a picture of Ross and me to my mother and this is what she had to say. I wanted to share this because I don't know too many single women that don't need to hear this right now.
I can see why you are attracted to him. Again, you say he is not interested in you "that way" so my recommendation is that you continue to guard your heart to protect it from hurt and disappointment. Do not fall for him, unless he falls for you. I am always concerned because of the age difference. Not that it is a bad thing, but as with (Guy A), he may not be mature enough to handle the difference and sees you as a dear friend and godly sister. If that is not the case, he will make his feelings known to you if God has chosen him as "the One".
As I told you that your heart may be open and receptive to these crushes to prepare you for the love of your life, only God knows who he is at this point. However, the problem with an open heart is that sometimes we can get hurt by others we let inside hearts and it gets easily broken. However, remember God can heal the brokenhearted and as the pains of childbirth are so difficult to bear, the joy outweighs the pain.
My hearts aches for you as you wait on God for your knight in shining armor. And I don't want you to hurt because he doesn't love you. It is not rejection that he's feeling for you, it's that you are not for him. And if he should find someone for himself like (Guy A) did, you don't want be grieved or hurt. You'll be happy for him. Don't let him play those heart and mind games as (Guy A) did with you. Remember, God loves you so much more and He will not put any more on you than you can bear. TRUST GOD WITH YOUR HEART AND YOUR HUSBAND! Wait patiently on Him and He will give you the desires of your heart, Wait I say on the LORD!
KNOW THAT I AM PRAYING FOR YOU. And I am asking God to hurry up! LOL. He has someone so fantastic for you it will blow your mind! We must wait on His Best. My prayer is that you be patient. I can't tell your heart not to hope, but if you can tell your heart "do not put your eggs in this basket (Ross)." I wish it was him and we did not have to look for another. I'm not a good "waiter" either. So I know how difficult it is to do.
Be a good friend to him and the others. Because you all have become a very close knit little family, that just what it is for now and may always be. HOPE IN GOD ONLY AND HE WILL ANSWER YOUR PRAYERS.
I LOVE YOU!
The only tricky part is the "don't fall for him unless he falls for you". I wish things were that easy. He's been away for quite some time since I last saw him so I have had the time and space apart from him that I needed to think more clearly. Whatever happens, happens is where I am right now. I am not overanxious and I really do believe that this could just be a phase. If he knows how I feel, then fine. At this point, NOTHING could be more embarrassing than what happened with Guy A so bring it on. I've been through my share at this point and have nothing to hide.