Wednesday, August 6, 2003

The Double Standard- by Toya

When Lyn Collins belted the infamous line “We’ve got to use what we’ve got to get what we want” she didn’t mean parts of our anatomy. There has been a widespread misconception surrounding young females that a way to prove your womanhood is to show your girly parts. “Look, I can speak my mind. I am not a little girl anymore; I can prove it too. Look at my boobies!” This pains me to no end. For example: Eve did not have to convince Adam to eat the fruit by giving him a lap dance. The first time Adam saw Eve she was naked. It gets old. She was able to persuade him using her womanly wiles and even the devil knew this, which is why he chose to punk her instead of Adam. If the devil is hip to this why aren’t we?

If you look back in history
It's a common double standard of society
The guy gets all the glory the more he can score
While the girl can do the same and yet you call her a whore

- Christina Aguileira’s “Can’t Hold Us Down”

Do you know why this is? Because women are not supposed to act that way! When will we as women realize that in this world, to try and act like men in order to gain respect is counter-productive? The world does not need for us to act like men. It needs and survives on us acting like women. As women, we have a unique wisdom and measureless power that if forfeited for futile penis envy renders us ineffective. We are precious. We are priceless and the world revolves around us. If you saw a diamond ring on sale for 25 cents wouldn’t you question it’s real value, it’s authenticity? You’d think it was a hoax. If this is the case then why do we as women, the diamonds of the world, resort to selling ourselves so cheap? No one is going to accept the value of a woman’s worth if we are selling it for a quarter, or a record deal, or fame or a corner office on Park Avenue.

One of the finest examples of a true woman of our generation is Sade. Sade emanates the essence of a woman. She is smart, she is innovative, and she is timeless. She puts out an album once maybe every five years and when it drops, it is soon platinum. She rarely tours but sells out every venue she plays. She does this all with poise, with grace and with her clothes on.

Let your dignity be “Like Whoa”. Make the double standard work for you. Pimp that sucker to death. You might feel like you are “not a girl but not yet a woman” but once you are a woman, you won’t have to prove it by openly talking about your sex life and exposing yourself. I am not talking about dumbing down women and acting ignorantly docile. There is nothing wrong with speaking up and voicing your opinion but use your sharpness and wit in the way that only a woman can. Mother Theresa was not a woman of many words but she will be known forever for her wisdom and her impact on the world. How many of today’s so-called “Independent Women” will be able to say the same?

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